Sleep in same bed or not?

[fedup2471]

Do you sleep in the same bed as your partners?

If so, how would you feel if they no longer wanted to?

Use to sleep together every night. Now OH struggles to sleep. He sleeps very lightly. He can't stand the slightest noise.
So now sleep apart.
Not my choice... his.

I feel so sad & lonely inside. I want to feel his warmth & hugs etc. yes I've told him this & I've even cried to him. Nothing changes.

AIBU?

Did I say she wasn't? There are healthy and unhealthy ways to express your feelings in a relationship, using tears to get your way is not healthy.

"I've cried to him and nothing changes" is literally her saying she was crying hoping he'd change his mind, which is using those emotions to be manipulative. I'm saying what I see and I see a woman using tears to manipulate her husband into sacrificing his health for her cuddles, I think that deserves a harsh criticism.

Your drip feed moves this to a completely different question.

You know full well that he should be at least taking an equal share of nights, but, in your unusual circumstances, I'd say doing all the night wakings.

The original question is now pretty irrelevant.

I think it depends on compatibility of the people sharing the bed. Personally, l love the warmth of someone beside me and gentle breathing.

l also share the bed with a few close female friends, it’s a friendship bed. Any thoughts of a wild lesbian orgy are way off the mark, it’s platonic.