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[jackrabbit]

Hello
Help required, gorgeous wife permanently too exhausted after doing battle with 3 kids (1, 4 & 6) to take part in matters of a marital & physical kind. Says that all she craves once the little ones are down is some down time, either a long bath or some trash tv. Are there any erotic books that you can recommend that i could leave out for her along with her glass of wine once the bath is run? She says her libido is floored and that she no longer even self services these days so she needs a kick start.
As far as i know she hasn't read anything before but when she is in the mood she does like me to tell he erotic stories which is why i have thought of this.
Any guidance much appreciated.

agree this woman deserves far more than a saucy read - she needs some respite from what is the most demanding job in the world.

good that you're taking an interest, but do please think a little laterally..

Thanks,
I take on board your comments and will may be take a day off work and take care of everything children related (would be great fun for me too as i never get to do the school run) and send her off to get her hair/nails done, lunch with her mum and then a few hundred quid to go shopping with.

Would still be interested though in any literary ideas so when she is relaxed & rejuvenated she has some inspiration if she wants it.

What bundle said.

Send her away to a friends for a weekend so she can get some proper rest, whilst you look after the children.

Pack her an erotic book if you like, but chocolate and wine might be just as well received.

And what tmmj said, obviously!

It is very scary, when you are a knackered out wife, even to hug your husband, for fear that he will try to turn it into a marathon sex session. If your aim is always sex, her aim will become not to have it, because it becomes just another thing that someone wants from them at the end of a long day. She's had kids crawling all over her day long, her body is never her own, if you see what I mean. So let her know you love her in other ways and she will respond more positively.

Just trying to let you know how it feels from the lady's point of view. If you want her to share her body with you, try to take some of the pressure off her. I'm sure it will help.

Black Lace do a good collection of women's erotic fiction. I'm really not convinced that's what she needs, though. I'm the first to admit that I'm frequently too tired to be interested in sex these days but you know what works for me? We pack the kids off the bed then have a romantic dinner by ourselves. We make a big effort with candles, wine and something special to eat (cooked by you, if DW is exhausted, or even a ready meal or takeaway). The important thing is that you focus on each other, not the kids, and you talk to each other. Remember that you're a couple, not just parents. You might find that rekindles a bit of romance.

if it was me, I wouldn't have the strength to read it, would definitely prefer some practical help, take them away for the day (better the weekend!) If you don't want to do a hotel with three kids, do you have parents that would accommodate you for weekend (and don't have her organise the packing etc) It would be really appreciated. Otherwise as suggested, send her away somewhere for a treat.

thanks everyone. Little woman, she has said pretty much the smae thing so i will take it on board.

actually little woman, you're not my wife are you??

tmmj, where else can a man go to get such good advice?
can't remember the date of when i asked before but this problem has been ongoing for a year ot two now, i guess i didn't pay enough attention to the advice i received last time!
Give a guy a break & thanks for your help

i know. half term report for JR says "could do better".

Massage, pampering day for her. Will help her to relax.

How about this book:

www.amazon.com/Butcher-Baker-Candlestick-Maker-Erotic/dp/0753511010/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books& qid=1210064186&sr=8-1

jackrabbit. No, I'm not a wife at all now, but this was a massive issue in my marriage too, sadly. It becomes a bit of a stalemate situation, if you're not careful. My ex husband used to get really pissed off with it, but still went to the pub 4 nights a week, football practise twice a week, and spoke to me like crap when he got home and I didn't want sex because I was cross at having been deserted yet again. It got to the point where he was only ever nice to me on the days he thought he was onto a sure thing. Then there was no way he was getting any!

Well, that's the story of my bleak life ... let those who have ears hear .

thanks alexa

Jackrabbit, you came on last year asking the same question - and then turned your thread to the question of "how to give the best cunnilingus"... in a thread which was about your wife's lack of sex drive!!

me thinks thou doth protest too much...

for sure, these threads can be great for discussing intimate questions like this but you sort of need to give something back in return too, maybe contribute to some non-sex threads.

I am a tiny bit suss, I have to admit...

hmmmm, getting a bit of a hard time here! (probably deserved)

will try and do as you suggest, thanks again for your help