Will my heart ever get over this

[Meanboys]

I feel like all I do is cry everyday. It’s been 6 months! My ex and I were together for almost 20 years and I decided to end it as he just did what he likes most of the time and didn’t help with the kids. He told me that he hasn’t loved me for almost 2 years but didn’t do anything about it. He has now met somebody else and the kids have met her etc. I am still hurting so so much even though it was my decision!

Does he literally not feel anything for me anymore after so long together, 2 children etc.

OP you will recover from this but you have to work at it. Go and see your GP, you are feeling depressed and might need a short while on medication to lift your head above water.

Think about what you can do to bring some happiness into your life. Treat yourself and do little things for yourself. Get out in the fresh air for a brisk walk every day - even 10/15 minutes will make a difference. Even better if you can walk in the woods/by a lake/somewhere in nature. Make time to see friends - if you can't get childcare invite them over for a takeaway and a bottle of wine. You only have this one life - the only person responsible for your happiness is you. Don't think about him or what's going on in his life - it's no longer your concern. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't love you. You deserve better 💐

I did go to the GP and he said I am not depressed, what I am feeling is completely normal for the circumstances

I hope he's paying child maintenance? Make sure you are claiming everything you and the children are entitled to. If you haven't then inform the council re council tax. What is your housing situation as that may need checking. Finally apply for child maintenance through the CMS to make sure you are get the correct amount.

Don't be a passenger in your life, take control. He's had two years plus to come to terms with his feelings but instead he sat doing nothing until he found another victim to attach himself too.

It will absolutely get better, but it does take time, so you kind of have to accept that it’s going to suck for a while (sorry) … let time pass and you will get there.

In fairness if his feelings did change towards you a couple of years ago then he is probably right that he’s processed the end of the relationship already.
Do you it’s still very fresh.

The new relationship may or may not work out for him, impossible to say.

Try and focus on you and kids getting into a routine. Be cordial in terms of coparenting etc.

textbook nonsense from a controlling man. I fear you are so focused on what you lost that you can’t quite yet see what you managed to escape from OP!

Be kind to yourself, you are only six months in and it takes a time to move forward from something as huge as that. I am almost three years into widowhood and am just beginning to wake up without that awful, physical feeling in my heart every day. There is definitely time for this to get better but it is a long, slow journey with steps backwards as well as steps forward, baby steps you WILL get there.

When I think back he used to say if I didn’t have any expectations I would never be pissed off with him.

Why won’t he agree to every other weekend?

Think about that- it means the answer to “what does he bring to the table?” if “Nothing, he comes to take from the table, to which he feels his right contribution is zero.”

Who says that? If you want to be satisfied with me, lower your expectations to zero.

Because he prefer pussy to parenting.

It is hard work getting their uniform/homework etc ready for the sake of one night. He just brings me back a load of washing the following day!