How would you react to partner not defending you?

[Melonjellies]

My boyfriends family member has been sending me horrible messages for 3 days. She hasn't met me. Only spoke through Facebook. She's randomly messaged me saying horrible stuff about how I would never be family. Every swear word ever. She now has called me a psychopath, a skank and a allsorts.

I'm 37 and this is just not my style at all. I am so distressed and have asked my boyfriend 3 times now if he will defend me and have a word. He's refused. Said its nothing to do with him and to just block her and shut up about it.

I've sent one firm message back and she's continued to blow up my phone with 14 messages up to 3 inches long paragraph wise.

I don't live with my boyfriend and his lack of care over this is shocking.

What would you do

Thank you. I've woken up today and I'm still in bed just don't feel any energy. I'm not going to make any communication with him today and I'm hoping I can keep focused on this and stay away. I am disgusted at him. He actually text me last night and said he was hungry and fancied a macdonalds. I just read it and ignored it.

Why would you continue to have contact with a man like this?

I just don't understand

You're allowing him to treat you badly.

I am very much starting to put a plan into place to not talk to him after this. I'm just processing it all. But I'm laying in bed today giving myself a rest.

@Melonjellies the best way forward is be absolutely clear with your soon to be ex-boyfriend "We are done"

I wouldn't waste anymore time on him or this extraordinarily peculiar family member of his.

Free yourself from feeling obliged to read, engage, explain, or respond to anything they message.

Block, delete and move on.

Better alone than badly accompanied.

Life with a partner should feel safe and mutually supportive. He's demonstrated neither of these qualities. So he needs to go.

OP, you desperately need to do the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk.

It is not normal nor healthy to accept such treatment from a boyfriend, from ANYONE.

Its really sad.
You must be very vulnerable to think this is in any way normal.

You are a prime candidate for ending up an abused woman if you don't educate yourself and start protecting yourself from pricks like this.

An utterly miserable life and future awaits you if you don't.