Honey trap her husband

[Hayleyxxx]

Hi, I’ve been asked to do something from another woman I know, and I feel pretty uncomfortable about it. I wondered if I could get some advice.

Basically ‘said’ woman wants me to start messaging her husband online, flirting etc, and see how he reacts. She said it’s upto me how far I go, but the further the better. This was all over a message so I haven’t even spoken to her face to face about it.
I just find it awkward as I’ve know her husband for years.

She said something along the lines of ‘women need to stick together, and help each other out’. I have no idea about their situation, but if she thinks he may be cheating, or tempted to, then I feel she should just leave him instead of just playing stupid games.

Would anyone else do this? She’s not even a friend really, just someone I’ve got to know a little bit through my job. An acquaintance at best.

Good grief. NO is a complete sentence. God knows what the motivation is but presumably she knows that you're not even single?!

I'd tell your partner, send her a big fat NO WAY, and avoid her like the plague.

Just say no thanks, and do it quickly.

Are you sure this woman hasn’t been hacked? Seems an odd thing to ask, let alone just by a message. I would ignore it. If you are approached by her tell her you thought she was joking and wouldn’t have ever entertained it.

How about sending this, then blocking:

Dear Ex-friend,

NO, I will not do this.

Furthermore, since no friend of mine would make such a sordid request, please do not contact me again.

Sincerely,
Hayleyxxx

No. No. No!

No one asks their married friend to honeytrap their husband who their friend has known for years. Something's afoot here, I'd reply something simple like "not a chance, but if you need support let's do coffee" and then try to see her in person to ask her.

It's not about you it's about her narrative that men can't just be friends with woman and as you've known him a long time you'll do
It'll be nothing about what he's said about you, more like some sort of jealousy either conscious or not that justifies her asking you this crazy crazy thing.
You've got a long term partner and not free and single. You have a friendship with him tomsome degree. If you randomly start messaging him flirty stuff surely he's going to be like, what the hells going on are you ok?
Plus, even if at any room, at any time if he did say he had a crush on you, or you are his pretty friend, so what? How does that information change things for you?
Would you leave your partner, is be the one that got away or if just a ego boost, I didn't know he felt that way. The reason is irrelevant right?
Trying to be logical and find meaning in crazy, is crazy itself!

Hey friend, I'm sorry you're struggling with your husband's fidelity. I do believe woman should stick together so I am here if you want to occasionally vent or get a coffee and unpack what's making you feel uneasy, but I can't do what you're asking. I'm sorry, but no. I'm not getting involved in that way. It doesn't feel right.

Or a simple,

I'm not that kind of person, we don't have that kind of relationship, so it won't work. And I'm not going to do that for you.
We do need to stick together, so I won't share this with him. But you sound paranoid, and this is an extreme ask, are you ok?

She can do it herself it’s called catfishing
she sets up a social media account in a fake name with fake pictures and she can gather all the evidence she wants
she can make multiple accounts and dating profiles if she wants absolutely no need to involve you at all
also there are profession all honey trappers which charge £2k to meet a man in a bar and flirt exchange number and she can pay and use this service if she wants

If someone hands you a box of rattlesnakes, you keep the lid on and hand it right back.

As much as anything else, there's no evidence the man has done anything wrong. Someone who is willing to treat the man she promised to love like that will have no qualms at all about dropping you right in it or screwing you over if she has to.

I know someone that asked her friend to do this and how her friend is married to the ex husband! Just say no I’m not comfortable

I would send the messages to the husband and stay out of it

I wouldn't even grace her with response

Why would you even consider this? No good can come of it.

I'll do it for money or an Amazon gift voucher

That's a whole can of worms you do NOT want to open! Politely but firmly decline. Suggest marriage counseling maybe?

Obvious answer, "Just checked the calendar, to see if it's April 1st! If course I can't do what you ask, it's crazy!"

My ex husband tried to start something up with one of my friends and she told me and asked what did I want her to do. I asked her to keep it going, see how far he would go but thatd a bit different as he actually already tried. You definitely should say no because it will backfire on you in some way and they will stay together even if he does go for it and you will end up without your friend.

I wonder why she has she targeted you.

Don’t put your reputation at risk for anyone.

Take a break from this couple. No good can come of it.

It doesn't matter why whatever problems they're having are nothing to do with you and it would bite you on the arse her husband is likely to smell a rat straight away as you've known him years , keep well out of it

Just no. Hard no.

Having knowledge of this being done for a good friend in the dim and distant past I would recommend not doing helping her.
I presume you know the reasons why she wants you to do this, but I think she should find out what she wants to know without dragging someone else into it.
You will not feel good about yourself afterwards