Honey trap her husband

[Hayleyxxx]

Hi, I’ve been asked to do something from another woman I know, and I feel pretty uncomfortable about it. I wondered if I could get some advice.

Basically ‘said’ woman wants me to start messaging her husband online, flirting etc, and see how he reacts. She said it’s upto me how far I go, but the further the better. This was all over a message so I haven’t even spoken to her face to face about it.
I just find it awkward as I’ve know her husband for years.

She said something along the lines of ‘women need to stick together, and help each other out’. I have no idea about their situation, but if she thinks he may be cheating, or tempted to, then I feel she should just leave him instead of just playing stupid games.

Would anyone else do this? She’s not even a friend really, just someone I’ve got to know a little bit through my job. An acquaintance at best.

Have you got a reputation for sleeping with married men?

Not one of my friends would ask this of me. Not least because I'd be telling them that if they were that suspicious of their partner then they shouldn't be with them.

If she want to try she can buy a burner phone and do it herself.

Absolutely not, I’ve been with my partner for 10 years. I would never cheat on anyone.

Don't do it. It could be a set up to either ruin your own relationship or your employment.

I’d do it for the plot! And then I’d remember this is boring real life and real people and probably not a good idea.

not even sure why you needed to ask

That is fucking mad. Don’t engage. Certainly don’t see it as a compliment which is what you seem to suggest it might be. She’s unhinged and you should know better than to even consider it.

Can't believe you even have to ask this question, assuming you're an adult of normal intelligence.

This is solved by you replying "Er no thanks lol"

Why do you even need to ask if you should do it. You barely know her. Say no and block her.

Swerve this! Suggest she contact a private detective agency, doesn’t sound like it is anything you’d be wanting to get involved in. Tell her a professional is the best way to go.

Hi ‘Said friend’ sorry to hear you are suspicious of your husband but I’m really not comfortable getting involved in a ‘honey trap’ to see how he responds’ Maybe try talking to him or hiring a PD if you need evidence…

she’s crazy to ask you especially as you’re not even close friends!!

The more I think about it, the more I think the same. The victim of this honey trap could be you OP, and someone is trying to cause trouble between you and your DP.

If I were you I'd show him the message asap and say how baffled you are by it.

If she's trying to catch him out, she could have asked lots of people. I wouldn't take it personally or think he's instigating it.

I bet he's oblivious and she's looking for an excuse to divorce him.

For all you know, she might be having an affair and wanting to put him off the scent by getting some woman to flirt with him.

Whatever her reasons, don't go there. I'll put money on her throwing you under a bus and naming you as The Other Woman in the divorce proceedings. After all, she'd have the messages to prove it.

Given she's more an acquaintance than a friend, just tell her no and if the shit hits the fan then so what? That's on her, of her own doing, ultimately. And you have the messages to prove it!

I'd refuse. There are detective agencies that do things like that. She can pay if she wants this work doing.

It might be in her world (which might be a lot more dysfunctional and drama-filled than yours), but that doesn't mean it's normal generally, or a good thing to do.

I advise you to be wary of such people. Some of them might ask this type of thing because they see it as reasonable. Others will ask you because they see you as a willing mug for some reason, or soft in their eyes.

She said something along the lines of ‘women need to stick together, and help each other out

So it seems like it's the latter then. She can fuck off with that emotionally manipulative nonsense.

Just say 'No thanks'. Don't apologise, don't start arguing with her, and don't advise her to leave her him as that will only draw you into a debate with her.

Say no thanks and ignore any unpleasant messages you get following that.

God no and no again. This could affect your work, your mental health and your dignity. Tell her to f off or pay for a private detective. This has shit show written all over it.

You'd be nuts to do this.

Tel her she can hire people to do that .

This is really inappropriate. I would be so insulted for her to want to use me like this. A firm no, or just a "Lol" and never speak to her again. The fuck..

All of this.

In fact I would actually be livid if someone asked me to do this. If it was at work it was also ring massive alarm bells and I would keep a very very wide berth.

This!

I would also make sure you have shown a few people the messages and your response was a no. As the fact she has asked a relative stranger to do this screams of crazy bitch and I would be protecting myself against future insanity.

This, OP.