We are together for over 17 years and have gone through lots of bumpy roads along the years. With two children, one is five. We are both working full time and financially sharing everything.
Hitting a rocky patch in November, started from a explosive row about kids. Husband told me he's done with trying to work out and has nothing else to give. Refused to go for counselling. The end of conversation..
I myself spent the last two months and a half , through Christmas, being miserable and up and down trying to process it from every angle. With numerous emotional breakdowns in front of the kids, I pressed again and he's not changing stance. So I guess that's it, regardless I like it or not.
Not willing to split (yet), because I still love him and DC2 is still too young. So I guess we need to manage under the safe roof somehow.
I don't know how to do this. I feel I don't know how to present myself in front of him. Gut feeling tells me that I can no longer and am not long willing to put the true self in front of him. I won't be able to share information about my life, except things to do with the kids and common friends. We have trip booked for Easter before all this. I guess I will just manage. But summer holiday usually is the biggest thing to look forward to, but we haven't booked any and probably won't book anything in the end. It will be a huge disappointment for the kids and the summer would also become really long if no going away.
If you have similar experience, sharing with your husband with whom you know the marriage is near end, can you please share some tips and give some advice please.
He's a decent guy and certainly isn't cheating. Lots of personality issues, childhood influences and low libo for many many years... I guess it's just a mis-match in the end. Really nothing can be done to drastically change either him or me...