Maybe for younger ppl would rapists take a woman somewhere out in the sticks or a secluded place. Older ppl who meet up a few times and share information back and forth, do not have nefarious ideas. Wouldn't inviting a lady to his home be a stupid thing for a supposed rapist to do? She would call the police afterwards or go straight to a hospital with evidence. She could take everything he owns in court for reparation while he sits in jail. Her ppl know where she is and with whom. They track her phone. Most old ppl are phone and computer literate.
If a woman thought it improper to visit his home alone, a day time visit would be appropriate. She might ask if her daughter or a friend might also accompany her for a visit. Trust takes time, but her text didnt sound like it had bad intentions. Just awkwardness and of course, no trust as of yet. A person's home says a lot about them.
I went through something similar after a 21 yr divorce. It was difficult to have a conversation with a man and begin dating even after 2 years on my own. Fear, lack of confidence from abuse, desertion, neglect. Awkwardness due to being older and learning who I was as a single person. All the rules had changed since my youth, even behavior, language, music, and my geographical location. I was in a huge city and lost. So yes, ppl in their 50s are quite different from younger ppl.
Older men dont place sex first anymore, you are speaking like a teen to 20s person, who have high sex drive.
Older ppl know time is short and they are simply lonely. They also have experienced so much more, in life, and know what they want, and can make decisions quicker bc of it. Time's a wasting. They are better at discerning things than young ppl are. They dont put themselves in risky situations without having protection or backup. How do you think we have lived so long without being taken advantage of or harmed?
Granny's conversations with this guy on-line, by phone and in person would have given her information that she could verify Gramps's employment and and ppl mentioned that he knows. There are certain things each should verify to feel comfortable. He might need to know if she was in debt or a gold digger, alcoholic, neurotic, gritch, frivolous, conservative, a gossip or just a kind homemaker.
Take into consideration, ppl in their 50s and 60s have lived through their hormonal driven years and have become led more by their heart and mind. So worry not, gramps
has no designs on those granny panties. And may not have the wherewithall to even stoke the fireplace to burn them.
We dont just dance with a guy, have a few drinks, then head to his shack to party. And no man has ever been pushy or crude to me. But I wouldn't have gone out with such a person anyway.