You wont know how the date will go unless you give the man a chance. He might impress her by leaving them for when she is gone. She might offer to help, he may accept or not. Sharing a task doesnt mean a man wants a woman to be his dog. When I attended dinners at parties I was invited, the wives just joined in the kitchen cleaning and talking at the same time. Men brought all the dishes and entertained any kids. It isnt a long or difficult task to clear a table for two. I came from a huge family where she had one of us help prepare meals, one or two washed up after. We all learned and helped. It just wouldn't occur to me to be offended by doing dishes in gratitude for my date's efforts in preparing and/or or paying for it.
A woman should always use her intuition or discernment, intelligence, and experience, in deciding what characteristics and behaviors are important...or not.
Young men are probably more as you describe, but a smart girl could just say, let's get'r done, get up lazy.
I admit, when young, I was taken advantage of by many, for being so helpful. I taught my daughter to be different than I was raised. She was always a fragile, slight girl.
At age 16, I told her: you have a few things you will have to overcome in life. It's good advice for anyone.
You are a female and are blessed with beautiful features and have many talents.
You are very intelligent, 132 IQ @ age 13.
You are small in size (95 lbs size 0) fragile and physically not as strong as others (Ehlers Danlos). You'll have to persevere and use your intelligence to compensate. Learn when not to use it. Most will either be intimidated, jealous, or resentful. Few are happy when someone is smarter than they.
Having good genes, looking age 12 at 30 can be difficult when making friends, winning a job, dating. It is even possible to attract the attention of the wrong sort. Carry pepper spray. (Send your kid to self-defense or martial arts class)
As a female, competing against men for a job and receiving the same pay/benefits/respect for the same or even better performance can be a difficult or impossible.
Her intelligence had caused issues since grade school. I had to get involved a few times bc she developed GERD by the 3rd grade, and from stress and mistreatment. When you notice your child has a coping issue, take charg, take immediate action to ensure the issue is solved and confidence is restored and boosted.
And be assertive but with gentle politeness. When a woman is assertive she is labeled a Gritch. If she is ambitious, she is labeled Aggressive. When you climb a ladder, dont kick others in the face while wearing heels, wear sneakers. No evidence.