Hello
Lately in my relationship I've felt so down, not valued and just a mum. Not a partner anymore
I work full time, so does my partner, his mum has our son a lot for childcare, but she drops him back about 1 when I am still working, so I spend my lunch hour trying to settle him for an afternoon nap. I don't get any time to keep on top of house work, Altho I still manage to, my partner got a cleaner to come on a Friday to help. Yet he still expects me to work full time, look after our son, he goes to gym every night so I also do the evening routine for our son, cook everyone dinners!
Anyway lately my partner moans at me a lot, about small things, like why is there not a lot of food, you need to go shopping or the house is a mess, or accusing me of doing damage to something in the house even tho I haven't?
Tonight we was supposed to get a takeaway, but couldn't decide so he said he was going to cook something for himself and he offered to do something for me also but I said no don't worry, he then started moaning at me about a mark on the all and accused me of doing it, at this point I just felt like enough! Sick of him accusing me of things I haven't done, he got defensive and I got angry saying he doesn't stop moaning at me, and he said why don't you move then if I am that bad (this is also a common thing whenever we have a argument- tells me to leave, so I don't feel secure here) he then said how I don't make an effort with my self anymore and relationship is dead. He also has done a loft conversion so our son could have his own room, and keeps saying he done the loft for me and that I am so ungrateful for it. I said tbh that was for our son, so stop saying it's for me. The argument got heated and I ended up walking away crying and I left him to put our son to bed and I've been in spare room since.
I feel like enough is enough now and I should leave - I'm worried I won't be able to afford rent and childcare - I just feel trapped 😣 as his mum is my main sorce of childcare and I can't afford anymore near where we live. Where do I go from here?