Me and my DP live together. This is recent maybe 8 months or so. We have been together around 8 years and just recently decided it made sense for us to stay together. We have 3 adult kids between us and they have all flew the nest.
Living together is just not what I thought it would be. I’m super lonely, spend a lot of time just by myself whilst he’s off down the pub. He attends the pub with other couples we both know (although they are his friends as opposed to mines due to age gap). When he comes home drunk he always says everyone was asking for me and I should go next time. But next time the invite is never there.
I don’t want to moan, he’s a nice guy. But I’m really bored and lonely. I work full time and take care of 98% of the house stuff. He makes the odd cup of tea or does the odd dish after dinner.
I don’t have any family, and fall into the high percentage of women 35+ who don’t really have any friends. I thought living together would be more fun, or I’d at least have more company. He doesn’t really want to do anything with me. When we are at home he just lies about watching tv, doesn’t make an effort in his appearance. Only time he makes the effort if for his times down the pub.
I asked him all week for us to have a day out today. We left this morning to go a walk, do a bit of shopping and have lunch. Within the hour we were home as he was moaning about the ice/where I wanted to eat/him not feeling well. Fast forward to getting home, he was shaving and showering and asking me to iron him a shirt as he was off down the pub.
I’m just so bored… I don’t want this to be my life! I miss my daughter, we do have regular days out but I miss living with her and how fun it was. I’m only in my 30s, DP in his 50s. I can’t just sit here forever. What do I do?