Single and lack of intimacy

[Cinnamorolls]

Anyone single and having to cope with lack of intimacy? How do you cope 🥲 fwb aren't for me nor is casual sex. Anyone else in this situation?

Yes and I’ve been single for years 😭

Me as well. I'm in this situation and was thinking of posting about it. Have been single for over 7 years. The longest I have ever gone. Starting to think I will never have sex ever again and makes me feel sad.

Porn is very different to intimacy

I miss it too

Yep. Single 5 years now and sex is the only thing I really miss.

I can’t do casual though, I need more of a connection before I can even kiss someone let alone have sex.

It’s very very difficult

Same here. I can’t do FWB or casual either. I have to have a real connection with someone (and fancy them, of course) to even kiss them, let alone have sex.

I’m glad it’s not just me. All people say is “get yourself a fwb” but that doesn’t work for me, I can’t sleep with people and not get feelings so I would end up even worse. But it’s really becoming difficult now. And no porn is definitely NOT the same.

You’re not the only one. And it’s not just women feeling this way.

I guess men in general are happy to have sex without an emotional connection, not all men no, but most.

Yes I miss it. Fwb not for me either. I need the whole emotional connection. I need to enjoy spending quality time with a partner before intimacy.
Who knows what 2025 will bring 🤔

Statistically I guess you’re right - more men than women can do it. But everyone’s different - I’d hate to be damned on the basis of an average!

I don't think casual sex is healthy for most people. I wouldn't want to be Lily Phillips, even though she gets loads of sex, I don't envy that lifestyle.

I’m the same. It’s been 12 years for me. I do have a FWB but I miss emotional intimacy and non sexual affection. I don’t have that with FWB because I’m not attracted to him that way.

It’s very difficult, I can’t do fwb at all I just get too attached been there/ done that. 8 years not even had so much as a hug or kiss never mind anything else.

I tried the casual thing and it didn't work for me. Independant strong woman here in need of a cuddle with a man I fancy and can be best friends with

I would really like some intimacy

Was dumped 6 weeks ago, after 12 mths together. Trying to stay as friends which has its own issues I know.
Not having the physical intimacy is going to be the killer.

Rabbit vibrator sale on lovehoney lol been single for about four years

Same.

I have options to have sex but I just wouldn’t enjoy it without having feelings for the person.

That’s the thing, it’s not lack of opportunity there’s plenty of that. I know I could sign up to a dating app and get sex whenever I want but no strings sex doesn’t work for me, I hear of women sleeping with men they’ve actually been on a few dates with then being ghosted as soon as they sleep with them. I don’t think I could handle that 😳 but vibrators etc aren’t really cutting it anymore.

How has dating in 2024 with a view to finding someone for a serious relationship been @Cinnamorolls / OP

Maybe a change in strategy for 2025 ? May I ask what age group you are dating in for LTR.....

I’m not dating, im a lone parent so it’s not through choice just that I can’t date.

I’m a lone parent too so I don’t have time to date or even a fwb. I don’t really have friends either. Aside from my mum, I go days without an actual conversation with another adult. I’m incredibly lonely. I’m only 26 but I can’t imagine how I’d meet someone to even form a relationship with.