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Best friend making me feel guilty that she’s had an awful Christmas

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Whyseverythingsocomplicated · 29/12/2024 10:51

I spoke to my best friend yesterday and she told me how rubbish her Christmas has been. She’s a single parent, no involvement from dad and has got two children with behaviour issues age 15 and 12, older one being autistic. Her family don’t bother with her. She said nobody’s bothered with them at all and they’ve all been really upset. We never normally meet up over Christmas but she did want to come round mine new year (I’ve posted about that too) but I don’t want the bad behaviour in my house as it leads to things being damaged and I’ve just redecorated. I myself am a single parent but have support off my ex and unfortunately have lost all my family to cancer but I have been lucky as I’ve seen other friends over the Christmas period. I feel like she resents that and not once asked me if I’d had a good Christmas knowing full well it can be difficult for me too. I said to her we can meet up next week and go out with the kids but she seems disinterested. She has made me feel so guilty and awful like I’ve failed her as a friend and I’m not sure how to handle any of this to be honest.

OP posts:
ueberlin2030 · 29/12/2024 18:49

Gorgeousfeet · 29/12/2024 18:06

Er no.

We are all entitled to an opinion whether we disagree or not with op.

Off you pop.

Ignore this one too OP.

Secondguess · 01/01/2025 16:14

What did you do yesterday, did you meet up with them for New Year's Eve?

Whyseverythingsocomplicated · 01/01/2025 20:51

Secondguess · 01/01/2025 16:14

What did you do yesterday, did you meet up with them for New Year's Eve?

No after she ranted at me I haven’t really spoken to her. Just sent her a message to wish her a happy new year

OP posts:
LePetitMaman · 01/01/2025 21:19

That's a brilliant first step. Now don't cave.

You'll be having a much happier new year.

Guavafish1 · 01/01/2025 21:24

Sounds like a victim

Eldermillennial2024 · 01/01/2025 21:31

Why do you feel guilty? Do you think you could have been a better friend? If so try harder to show sympathy or just listen. If you think you've done all you can (and it's fine if you simply don't have the energy or time to give any more to her) then you shouldn't feel guilty. You suggested meeting up and she wasn't interested. That's on her.

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