I dated someone who USED to work where I work. We went for drinks twice. Had some fun and then it faded into silence (from him) after a week of no contact I spoke to a woman i work with who he had chased but didn't get anywhere. We messaged back and forth confirming how he'd chased us both and things he'd said. We've clicked on he is all talk to get what he wants.
I had an appraisal today. Was quite shocked to sit down and my assistant manager asked me what I thought about sharing my sexual encounters with other colleagues. I was shocked and said excuse me. What are you talking about. Eventually I clicked and said we both spoke out of work in private and we are friends with no issue. He said someone else has reported her and she wrongly thought it must have been me. My main manager then said did you have sex with him? To which I am then sat there explaining he had played me abit to think he liked me then disappeared after his fun!
They assured me the other colleague was fully aware I wasn't linked or the person who has reported anything.
I then speak to my friend to make sure she's OK and told her what had happened. She is claiming they already knew and were questioning her. Impossible as nobody else was told. But she's also told me we need to take it higher because its absolutely unprofessional.
I'm feeling pretty upset that I've had to confirm my bosses I've had sex recently and I see no way its affected my work or professionalism.
I feel like job hunting. I had a great appraisal after the embarrassing conversation. But I don't even want to return I cried walking home as he's the only man I've slept with in years and I really didn't need people knowing.