OH threatened to smash me with our sons pram

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This happened a while ago but still sends me reeling. I find it hard to forget what he said. Our son had an appointment at a hearing clinic and we agreed that we would go to the park (next to the clinic) first. We were very early and got into a fight in the car as OH said that there was no time for the park and we would have to go straight there. DS already expected to go and play and we had 45/1 hour to kill. We had a fight in the car and I said it wasn’t fair on DS and OH wanted to just park up and wait in the car (30-45 minute wait) Again we fought, OH got the pram out of the car saying I had had my own way as usual, I was controlling etc. I defended myself then he whilst holding onto the pram said “if you don’t shut up I will pick up the pram and smash you across the face”

It’s played on my mind ever since. We were in a heated fight but his threat has stayed with me since. I play it out thinking i could have called the police, told a doctor in the hearing clinic or done something. Thanks for reading so far. I wasn’t completely innocent, I was shouting too and we both lost our tempers. Seeking opinions please.

Good. You should not forget or get past it. This is an abusive relation.
Many women in abusive relationships think that as long as the abusive partner doesn't target the children it's ok. But there is now many evidence that witnessing domestic violence has the same long-term effects on children as being abused themselves.
As other PP said, please call Women's Aid to get help to leave him.

www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/support-for-parents-and-carers/child-abuse-and-harm/children-affected-domestic-abuse-violence

Peoples true faces are revealed by stress and struggle, he's telling you who he is loud and clear. The nice him is the mask, not the angry nasty one. Threatening violence is abusive and scary and never ok. You shouldn't be typing to forget or move past it, there's a reason you can't and you should listen to those instincts. I regret very much silencing mine, time showed clearly that the true him was the nasty person not the kind loving one he seemed to be.

Shouting and yelling and making threats in front of your car and in a public place?

BOTH aid you need anger management and parenting classes.

Your poor son.

@RegulatorsMountUp

*Can you stop saying fight when you mean argument.

You both sound as bad as each other- stop arguing and shouting in front of your child. LTB*

Can you stop picking on the op's choice of words? Fight means argue/quarrel as well as physical altercation. They are not as bad as each other, he is abusing her.

OP please ask for this to be moved to relationships if it's not already been moved and seek some advice from women's aid, you don't have to live with someone who threatens you with violence.

I am afraid you may have a very skewed view of normal.
His behaviour once should have been enough for you to leave, him not actually carrying out his threats is a low bar.
No child should be raised in a "volatile" relationship

Re-read your earlier posts. Nothing about this man is nice, kind, generous or affectionate.

If he threatens you and you feel afraid he might do something physical, that is assault, whether he touches you or not.

"When not fighting he’s nice, kind, generous and affectionate, always saying how amazing I am and how much he loves me and can’t live without me."

What you are saying is no different to saying things like

He's 100% faithful except for when he's cheating on me.

He's very gentle except for when he's hitting me.

He's very sweet except for when he's threatening me.

He's so loving except for when he's saying he hates me.

Nice if you ignore the nasty isn't nice.

Nothing about this is normal or ok. Please find a way of getting yourself and your child away from him asap.

I don’t understand why you are still with this man?

Why do so many women tolerate appalling behaviour?

This. It is abuse and your innocent child has already been exposed to it countless times. Eventually he will follow through on his threats. Get out.

Your relationship isn't normal! Your child is seeing and hearing this, they will grow up emotionally damaged, if you don't have any respect for yourself, at least think of the wellbeing of your child and leave this monster before anymore damage is done. Don't put a man before your son.

This is not ok. I have had heated rows with my husband and no one has ever threatened violence.

Can’t believe the PPs saying “both as bad as each other”. Nasty threats of violence are completely different FFS.

This. Why are you still there waiting for his next threat of violence?