Boyfriend of two years going through messy divorce, my own divorce finalised earlier this year. We got on brilliiantly and after horrid exH I finally thought he was the real thing. The problem is his increasing ultimatums around my kids. They are 15 and 14 and the situation with their Dad when they are there half time is not great as there is a new partner and child.
There was a huge row in summer when I was due to go away with bf for weekend but had to pull out as their Dad was away and kids did not want to go to friends. BF was fuming and I ended up having to go on another expensive weekend awat with him to placate. He had invited himself for Christmas this year but I had to tell him last week that on Christmas Day my kids want to spend it with just me in our new home. I get BF is upset about this but he has now ended it with me and will not understand my predicament of trying to give the kids what they want this Christmas after a really shaky couple of years. His kids dont even lnow I exist. I am struggling with guilt of him spending a day alone Vs a real belief that I have to be with my kids alone as per their wishes. WWYD? kIds dont dislike him but he is very loud and full on and they just want a calm day. He was invited for the lead up but says he is too angry with me.