Escorts and marriage

[Peanutsandbutter]

Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do, leave, turn a blind eye? Something else?

If my husband was using escorts my marriage would be over, obviously.

Your husband is cheating.
Why would you turn a blind eye?
Get tested for any STDs

There's no possible way I could turn a blind eye when my own health was at risk. That's just not an option.

I would obviously have to leave if it continued. Whether the marriage continued or not would depend on many factors.

What a vile man. Money doesn’t buy consent, and he clearly has a disgusting and disrespectful attitude to all women, including you.

Why even contemplate turning a blind eye?

I’d leave for any form of cheating, nevermind if he was paying to do it.

Your husband is coercing sex out of prostituted women? Obviously divorce without a moments thought and tell everyone what he's done to those women.

This. Not a moment's thought.

Why on earth are you even considering turning a blind eye?
He is buying women's bodies.

Your other thread shows this man to also be a terrible parent as well as a failure of a man and husband.
Divorce and enjoy life.

Oh my goodness this is the dreadful man who thinks a woman can be too close to her 9 month old baby!
Oh OP you really need to divorce this man. You will be much better off without him.

The only question is whether to divorce him or bury him under the patio!

I'd hate him more for using prostitutes than having an affair. At least the affair partner wanted to have sex with him, rather than the escort having to be paid to submit her body to him. I despise men who pay to access women's bodies.

I actually think prostitutes is even worse at there's such a vile exploitation angle plus it's such intent to have sex. I would be so revolted I wouldn't be able to be near him again

What woman would be ok with her husband shagging around? Especially shagging around with escorts. Gross.

no I would not be turning a blind eye to my husband abusing vulnerable women behind my back.

take any evidence you have to a lawyer and divorce his dirty ass.

My marriage would be over in a second. Nobody compromises my health.

Also, I would be less inclined to forgive a man for using escorts than I would if he had an office fling mostly because anyone who doesn't get that a lot of women are trafficked and forced into sex slavery (or are using escorting because of dire circumstances) and how damaging it is then I really don't want to know them. (Not that I would forgive an office fling either!)

I'd dump him for exploiting women. Much worse than physically cheating in my book.

Dump him and get an STI check.

The fact that you have to even ask suggests he's really ruined your self esteem. You are worth so much more than a man who shows blatant disrespect for you. Leave and don't look back. There's lots more to life out there for you and you don't need a minute more in an unhappy situation. Put yourself first x

The fact you have to ask makes me want to hug you. I hope this isn't happening to you. No one should accept this.

It's despicable behaviour. Definitely marriage ending behaviour.

I'd tell him to leave immediately. Immediately. No discussion, no talking, no arguing. Just go. Now. There's no making that right.

STI test.

Any communication would be done through solicitors.

Why are you even asking?

I agree with everyone else - this would be over. Definitely get an STI test if you have been having unprotected sex with him.

I also think sex with an escort is worse than an affair as it tells you exactly what me thinks women are worth. He doesn't want to put the effort into any sort of relationship - he just wants a vessel to wank into essentially.

He is disgusting. Please gather your anger and tell him to leave.

I think using the word 'escorts' is sanitising the very likelihood that these are women who are trafficked/coerced/exploited and desperate.

Unforgivable in my opinion, in or out of a relationship let alone if I was in a marriage to someone who did this.

Sorry, it must be a huge shock

If my husband used the services of an escort the marriage would immediately be terminated. Thankfully he never would.

Why would you turn a blind eye? What is there to stay for? 🤔