Escorts and marriage

[Peanutsandbutter]

Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do, leave, turn a blind eye? Something else?

Happened to me. I told him I was divorcing him as soon as I found out.

Using escorts is worse than having an affair. A lot of these women are not doing this type of work out of choice but either out of necessity or being forced. Many are trafficked, and are abused by pimps and clients. There is no way in a million years I could turn a blind eye. At least if a man is having an affair, the woman actually fancies him and wants sex with him. An escort is having sex with him, because he's paying her and because she has no choice. You don't know if he's using condoms, and even if he is, it could break. I'd be wanting a full STI tests.

Thank you for your replies everyone.

He has denied it yet excused 0uvit (although I've got prove) which is confusing me. If I left I feel like I'd lose so much time with my child, and how it would affect them.

I feel to blame to an extent for weight gain and not being on his level in many ways. I wish he hadn't gone down this route and I'll never understand why. I need to sensibly consider what I need to do next.

Thank you all for your honesty x

Weight gain has nothing to do with it. You are in no way responsible for his disgusting actions.

Don’t stay with him for the children’s sake.

one day those children will leave home and it will just be you and him and you will be stuck with someone you don’t like and who has been treating you like shit for years because you put up with it.

your children will also grow up and tell you they wish you had left him sooner.

the likelyhood is he won’t want 50/50 custody so you won’t lose out on too much time with your children.