I told this guy I was done with him, why hasn’t he deleted me on Social Media?

[Daisyxone]

I had been dating this guy for about six months. The entire time he had financial issues in the beginning he bought me a lot of things. I guess to try and keep me around? A couple of weeks ago I got very upset and I told this guy I was done with him. Because it seemed like he didn’t want to see me. I was pissed off because he could have just told me he didn't have any money. But instead, he kept saying he wanted to see me. When I went off on him he kept telling me I was overreacting. So now I’m just wondering why he hasn’t deleted me. We’ve talked a little bit since then he replied when I wished him a Happy Thanksgiving. When I apologized to him the other day, he said he didn’t appreciate how I lashed out at him even though he knew it seemed shady when he said he couldn’t see me because he had plans at the last minute.
Why won’t he just unfriend me?

All you keep saying lol is.

Completely agree, you are sending very mixed messages!

I have never ever blocked/ unfriended/ deleted anyone off social media (unless it's some random stranger influencer or company whose posts I no longer want to see). Some people just don't think about it so deeply/ are not obsessed with blocking.

But you haven't really given him a reason to think you're even properly finished if you keep messaging him all the time.

Why haven’t you deleted him then? 🙄

Are you hoping that he hasn’t unfriended you because he’s still interested/cares? It may well be that. It also could be that he’s not the type to unfriend, some people just don’t. He might check your FB page because he still cares, or out of idle curiosity. Unfortunately, it’s often impossible to know what’s going on in someone else’s head. We can send ourselves spinning in circles trying to find answers and sometimes it’s best just to stop and say, “no more.”

Jeezlouise.

Option A: keep sending him cheeky texts, keep him dangling, enjoy the drama, make plans for your 15th birthday party.

Option B: dump him, block him/don’t block him, whatever, move on. Plan a weekend doing some adult shit.

Option C:….oh I don’t know. I’ve run out of ideas here.

I'm talking to another guy as well but honestly, I don't want things to be over between the first guy and I. Really I got fed up because he would make up lies. Instead of just being honest about having financial issues.

What on earth does all this have to do with being not-deleted on Facebook? I’m kind of intrigued, what do you actually get from all this from all this game playing?

Maybe the drama makes you feel happy. Does this drama have to be on Facebook or real life to give you the buzz. Has the drama gone dead on both Facebook and real life so you come here to spark that flame up again. Is it us who you need right now to give you your buzz. Weird stuff but fascinating.

Aren't you bored of posting essentially the same inane crap under a different name every week??

Is this a real post by a real adult? OP really? Take control and if you dont want to speak to him then block him and dont speak to him. If you do want to speak to him then speak to him. Plenty of people break up and remain able to have conversations afterwards, plenty don't. Also, your whole rant around him buying you stuff then you find out he hasnt got any money and dump him. I hope you returned the items so he can sell them and pay back his debts and pay his rent. Or did you just take all this stuff, throw a fit becuase he wasnt actually as rich as you thought then expect him to make the effort to block you.

youre an idiot

For goodness' sake. If YOU'RE done with HIM then it's for you to delete him (if that's your vibe). But it sounds like you want him on the hook and want him to contact you, in which case why gripe about him "not deleting" you?

Being connected on social media doesn't mean anything. If you're not interested in him, delete him. If you are still interested, let him know. Maintaining some mentality of him playing you in some way after you dumped him, just because he hasn't cut you off on social media, is a bit weird. You're making the decisions here. It's your life. Make your choices. If you want him, let him know. If you don't, leave him be. Whether or not you remain connected on social media is neither here nor there.

Concise. To the point. Working smarter not harder there wrpd. A credit to the team.

I love him but he's afraid of love.

*"I love him but he's afraid of love"
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Bollocks. Grow up OP.

@Daisyxone then either he needs to do some hard work on himself, or more likely, he's just not that into you. Either way, he's not for you. Move on and stop wasting your time fantasising about someone who is unsuitable as a partner.

He drinks, he lies, he takes drugs, he's afraid to love. It's James Dean! He's been reincarnated it's a Christmas miracle, sod Die Hard they should make a Christmas movie about you @Daisyxone.

I'm imagining op singing along to this while she posts...#airsupply

Is it AI? The weird style and op doesn't answer questions but just rambles on about shite?

So at some point in the past he has deleted you but then friended ( is that a word 🤔) you again ?
Did you break up then get back together?
I think that's your answer, he or you just want fwb .
Or your a dramatic 14 Yr old !

I think the “etiquette” is you call it off, you do the admin. It sounds like he doesn’t like you enough and prolly isn’t a social media addict so he might not take notice to such details.

If it bothers you so much, why won’t you ask him?

Are you a teenager OP?

Twaddle.

Technically no she's 12 and you need to be 13 to qualify as a teenager

What’s stopping you???

Is Reddit down?

OP you've come to the wrong audience here. A lot of us had finished dating by the time social media were a thing, so really couldn't care less about the nuance and meaning that you teenagers younger people have attached to unfollowing and blocking.

If he's a liar you don't want him back, he won't change. Block him and move on.