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Original poster

I told this guy I was done with him, why hasn’t he deleted me on Social Media?

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 19:31

I had been dating this guy for about six months. The entire time he had financial issues in the beginning he bought me a lot of things. I guess to try and keep me around? A couple of weeks ago I got very upset and I told this guy I was done with him. Because it seemed like he didn’t want to see me. I was pissed off because he could have just told me he didn't have any money. But instead, he kept saying he wanted to see me. When I went off on him he kept telling me I was overreacting. So now I’m just wondering why he hasn’t deleted me. We’ve talked a little bit since then he replied when I wished him a Happy Thanksgiving. When I apologized to him the other day, he said he didn’t appreciate how I lashed out at him even though he knew it seemed shady when he said he couldn’t see me because he had plans at the last minute.
Why won’t he just unfriend me?

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Tontostitis · 03/12/2024 20:27

Facebook has a minimum age of 12 are you sure you qualify?

livingafulllife · 03/12/2024 20:29

Tontostitis · 03/12/2024 20:27

Facebook has a minimum age of 12 are you sure you qualify?

😂lol.

Babbahabba · 03/12/2024 20:32

You haven't answered the question as to why you haven't deleted him?

livingafulllife · 03/12/2024 20:35

🍿

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/12/2024 20:39

You again? It must be about a week since we've had one of your inane posts. Go find something to do and stop posting nonsense

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:41

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/12/2024 20:39

You again? It must be about a week since we've had one of your inane posts. Go find something to do and stop posting nonsense

What are you talking about? Me again? This is the first time I've posted on here.

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:42

Babbahabba · 03/12/2024 20:32

You haven't answered the question as to why you haven't deleted him?

Because I care about him that's why.

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Redglitter · 03/12/2024 20:43

Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:23

He doesn't want to know me and he's not interested ok right then why hasn't he deleted me? I'm not Facebook friends with people I have no interest in.

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Oh ffs if it's that important hit the damn button and unfriend him yourself

Jeez you sound about 12.

Arlanymor · 03/12/2024 20:43

Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:42

Because I care about him that's why.

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But not enough to stay with him. You called it off, so let the poor bloke go and find someone new, sever contact and move on.

Edingril · 03/12/2024 20:43

The x in your user name kinda gives it away

Liv999 · 03/12/2024 20:44

If you care about him and he says he cares about you then it looks like none of you want to unfriend each other so just leave things as they are, you can still be friends even if not in a relationship, problem solved

Margorett · 03/12/2024 20:44

Oh dear, a life led by face book, how very very sad !

EBearhug · 03/12/2024 20:45

Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:09

Every time I've told a guy I was done with him they deleted me. It's not uncommon for people to unfriend and unfollow each other when they break up.

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It's equally not uncommon to not be arsed about it and not bother expending the energy involved in unfriending/blocking. You're the one bothered by this, not him.

The only ones I've blocked have been the ones who were demanding of my time ("why haven't you replied?" even though I said I'd be busy and not able to get to the phone.) I've no idea whether guys I met online have blocked me or not, because I just can't be bothered to check. Neither of us has contacted the other, so it's fine.

BodyKeepingScore · 03/12/2024 20:45

@Daisyxone it's really not complicated. He doesn't care enough to either remove or block you. You're not taking up space in his head. Just delete him yourself if you're that bothered. You're not 4 and presumably you still have working digits or you wouldn't be typing here.

MiscellaneousSupportHuman · 03/12/2024 20:46

If you're done with him, why are you looking?

Coconutter24 · 03/12/2024 20:48

Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:42

Because I care about him that's why.

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So why do you want him to unfriend you?

TwistedWonder · 03/12/2024 20:51

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/12/2024 20:39

You again? It must be about a week since we've had one of your inane posts. Go find something to do and stop posting nonsense

Another username, another made up immature pointless non drama

Its Groundhog Day

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:53

Awhile ago he told me he checked my Facebook. So this is why I'm saying I don't know why he hasn't deleted me.

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/12/2024 20:54

TwistedWonder · 03/12/2024 20:51

Another username, another made up immature pointless non drama

Its Groundhog Day

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Yup, immature, same childish writing style and completely, utterly pointless

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:56

EBearhug · 03/12/2024 20:45

It's equally not uncommon to not be arsed about it and not bother expending the energy involved in unfriending/blocking. You're the one bothered by this, not him.

The only ones I've blocked have been the ones who were demanding of my time ("why haven't you replied?" even though I said I'd be busy and not able to get to the phone.) I've no idea whether guys I met online have blocked me or not, because I just can't be bothered to check. Neither of us has contacted the other, so it's fine.

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Yeah, but once he literally told me that he checks my page.

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Pinkelephant66 · 03/12/2024 20:56

Because for some people, not everything revolves around social media

User346897543 · 03/12/2024 20:56

Grow up ffs

TwistedWonder · 03/12/2024 20:56

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/12/2024 20:54

Yup, immature, same childish writing style and completely, utterly pointless

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Ignoring every comment and just repeating the same repetitive mind numbing pointless ‘but whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy’ over and over and over again

Stevie Wonder could see who it is

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 20:59

MiscellaneousSupportHuman · 03/12/2024 20:46

If you're done with him, why are you looking?

Why am I looking? He's the one who admitted to checking my page before. I can see when he's online and I don't have to look.

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Daisyxone · 03/12/2024 21:04

Liv999 · 03/12/2024 20:44

If you care about him and he says he cares about you then it looks like none of you want to unfriend each other so just leave things as they are, you can still be friends even if not in a relationship, problem solved

When he said he cared about me it was before I told him I was done. But if he cared about me he wouldn't have tried to buy my love. And he would have just told me he couldn't see me because he didn't have money. I went off on him because he told me he was depressed and that he wasn't going to reach out until he figured things out. But that was just a lie he was using because of his financial situation. I told him I was done because he lied to me. He and I were close at one point when we first met. He told me that he was in rehab because he had issues with drinking. So there was no reason why he couldn't have just told me he didn't have any money. His financial situation was always the problem.

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