How on earth do I end my marriage??

[ChristmasHound]

What on earth will I say to my husband? It would have to be when the children are in school and possibly on a sleepover that evening. I will have a new home to go straight to. I feel like such a complete cow 😔

(Reasons for ending - EA/Verbal abuse/threats to harm me and himself and general twattish behaviour)

Although I know 100% that I am doing the right thing I still feel guilty and I know he is going to hate my guts.

I know given the EA/VA it has been recommended that I just leave and not tell him to his face but I don’t know if I can do that. Is it best to say I want to separate or be straight and say I want a divorce? It’s not helping that he’s being very nice right now/helpful with my parents/buying me flowers and paying for items.

He sounds dangerous. I absolutely would not tell him i was going and i would say i want a divorce too

I agree with others that this doesn't need to be announced. Just go.
He's already told you you'd be the one leaving anyway, so just get yourself safely out.

Well done for taking this step and I wish you all the best in reclaiming your life away from the abuse 🙏🏾.

Turning off the router will disable the Ring. It needs WiFi to work.

Given how unstable he seems, I think it is a big risk to tell him face to face. It is the point at which they realise they are losing their control over you and they can escalate rapidly. You don't owe him a thing. Please don't put yourself in danger.

Turn the WiFi off right before you leave. Will just look like a powercut. Plus the fact you are worried about him even checking the footage shows he is controlling/abusive. I'm glad you are taking the right steps to look after yourself x

Lean around the door frame (so not in sight) and slap tape over it

Please call WA as soon as you can for advice. It may be there is a way to get the police to remove him.

Get your friend to collect a few bags of stuff for the”jumble sale”?

As others say DO NOT tell him face to face. Thinking of you xz

@Mrsttcno1 you have hit the nail on
The head

Op please read the post

Get your valuables out ie you your kids and your passports or debit cards

That is all you need

Xxxxxx