Is this guy deranged?

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

So, dating app guy. Spoke to him over summer. Told him it won’t work. Suddenly, he send me a few messages out the blue. I said no it won’t work.

Then he proceeds to send me voice notes about how his dad was ill over summer and that’s why he couldn’t message much. I said I’m sorry and I understand but he’s not what I’m looking for.

I said via voice note. I’m not interested regardless. He then said “I get that but I’m just asking for a chance. I have making up to do and I’m willing to make it up to you” then later on i again said “look I dont think its going to work because im not in a place to date” (this is still me being nice)

then he proceeds to send me 4 voice notes saying he appreciates my honesty and this is why he wants to take me on a date. Also, he thinks we’d get on really well because we’re aligned and he recalls it from before.

he doesn’t seem like he needs blocking I feel it’s mean. But then I’m starting to wonder if he’s deranged. How many ways do I need to fashion “no” for him to understand. I find this behaviour psychotic. Like he’s just not getting it?

Do I just hit block now?

I’m curious why you would keep replying?

I find voicenotes creepy. You've told him no already, he's ignoring you. Block him. That's plenty of reason to block.

Block him! He sounds like a nut.

I was hoping to be nice about it. But he just keeps going.

Every time you reply, he thinks he has a chance. Men are dumb fucks like that.

He is trying to wear you down. It's classic hook up psychology.

Tell him to fuck off and block him

his are. I wish I could send them on here. He slows down on some words like “attractive” it’s weird. He thinks it’s sexy. Gives me the ick.

You don’t have to be nice. No is a full sentence. You have said no don’t reply. If he keeps at it block his number. As someone else has said you keeping engaging gives me the sense that there might be wriggle room. Conflicting messages.

Blocking him would be the nice thing to do at this point

I’m struggling to reconcile you using the word “psychotic” to describe him while also saying you don’t think he needs blocking as it seems a bit mean.

Every time you respond he's pulling you in a little bit more. Eventually he will break you down and you'll go for a coffee.

You ever wanted to know how abusive and manipulative relationships start? This is a perfect example of boundary pushing. Block him. Now.

Assuming he isn't an actual danger (ie knows your address), just block him. Red flags galore.

Yeah, he's pushy. That doesn't mean he's psychotic, unless he's showing clear signs of delusion? It's not deluded to refuse to take No for an answer. It is borderline rapey, though.

Block.

I wouldn't have thought twice about blocking him @ThePerkyCoralPoet you could be asking for trouble by even responding IMHO. Please do ìt

Block now. I get that you are trying to be nice, and you are sympathetic to his circumstances, but no, absolutely no. Doesn't mean that he is anything (other than maybe desperate) but this is not what you signed up for, and you won't be the first to block him, nor the last. You have made your position clear, and you are well within your rights not to be pestered. If you imagine it in real life, you would not tolerate it, so defo not in the virtual world. Block and move on. xx

You've said no clearly. He's refusing to accept that. Why would you date a man who ignores you when you say no?

Block, block and then block some more. Creepy & weird.

I hardly ever block anyone, but persistent messages when you've already said no would do it for me. Though I'd probably try not bothering to answer first (out of laziness as much as anything. )

If you really want to be nice send one last message saying you are going to block him and then do it. He is wasting time messaging you because you're not interested in him.

Block

He's a persistent rat up a drainpipe that needs blocking.

Every time you respond you are giving him attention. That’s what he wants. He sees you as willing to engage and believes he will be able to wear you down and get what he wants. He’s probably loving the thrill of the chase. You need to block him if you don’t want to talk to him any more.

Yes he is deranged.
You have said no multiple times now. And been very kindly too.
Your opinion and feelings matter, you're not interested and you don't have to communicate with him.
Just block immediately.

Block him
But make sure you block him on your phone and WhatsApp otherwise you will get a message asking what he has done wrong

You don't know him , you have been polite and know block him and never think of him again

Well he's not a nice gut is he? Any decent guy would accept, and respect, your no. I've certainly blocked for less, don't try and be nice to someone who doesn't respect your boundaries!

As pp have said, you've tried nice he's not talking the hint time to block.

Watch this week's 24 hrs in Police Custody as a warning OP.