NC for this..
Been with DP for 14 years, one child together. An amazing man, amazing father. Always been a drinker and has cut down hugely over the years but can't quite kick it completely.
Since having baby I need him to be a bit more responsible and not drink regularly, he gets annoying and very unhelpful once he's had a drink & with a small child it is just pointless. He can't kick it completely despite many arguments and a few ultimatums, they work in the short term but he slips back to old ways. He works in a restaurant so surrounded by booze, I do get this is tricky. He managed 3 months without a drink but then we had a party to go to where he had a couple (not a problem) but since he can't get back on the wagon.
Has anyone got advice on how to support him? I almost need him to become allergic to beer!! Because it's only a couple of beers I doubt the GP will refer him anywhere. He wouldn't go to meetings or anything. I feel like he doesn't drink enough now to warrant an urgent problem but he has a dependancy that he can't shake fully. On his days at home he doesn't drink, it's easy. It's not there in front of him. I've suggested he change jobs but he likes where he is. I think it's purely routine & habit but how do I help him break it?