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Husband annoys me

10 replies

Pineapplelady1 · 24/11/2024 19:17

I recently married my now husband 3 months ago, recently has recently been struggling with his knees so is on light duties at work but he picks and chooses when to stay at home and not considering the effect it could have on management and how they treat him. When ever I speak and ask him to consider being 'mature' about work as it is his main income and we need that along with my income he gets defensive and makes our like I don't want him to be at home if I'm working from home. His moods are continous, when ever I start a conversation he just replies with 'right' or 'ok' and there is no conversation, I've literally bought a new house so his daughter can have a bigger room and if we ever have children, I work all the time. I've just had enough of his shitty attitude with me and it gets my back up so I react then I get the blame. I'm really considering a divorce but as he has no family here and is currently paying off a large debt bill I know he couldn't afford to get a place of his own or move in with family. I feel suffocated, sad and trapped. I can't stand this life with him anymore. I've pulled him out of his gambling addiction and paid off £5k worth of debt he pilled up, I deal with his shitty ex and this is what I get to deal with.

Please give me advice if you have any

OP posts:
IveShaggedSomeMingers · 24/11/2024 19:21

Why did you marry him?

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 24/11/2024 19:25

I have no idea why your married this man but you did.
After three months and it’s this bad, get out.
Get out now.
Get away from his attitude and his gambling and don’t worry about his family situation.

Quitelikeit · 24/11/2024 19:26

Move to separate as soon as possible to hopefully stop him having a claim on your finances

Quitelikeit · 24/11/2024 19:27

Also stop trying to rescue people

Lollyp2 · 24/11/2024 19:29

I am so sorry OP.
Can you make a plan to leave before getting sucked in too deep??

The things us women do for men are astonishing.
Then we end up losing so much!!

TipsyJoker · 24/11/2024 19:31

Get rid of him. If he has nowhere to go that’s not your problem. He can declare himself homeless and he will be out in temporary accommodation until he is given a permanent home. He’s a grown adult. He’s not your responsibility.

IveShaggedSomeMingers · 24/11/2024 19:52

Issues with his ex | Mumsnet

unclemtty · 24/11/2024 22:00

Sorry no one replied to your post in July, maybe could have prevented the wedding!!!

Never mind, read this evenings post back to yourself, just finish it, it sounds grindingly miserable living with him, it's only going to get worse and adding a baby into the mix Confused don't do it
You're better off having a baby with a random guy you've only met 2 minutes than with this loser.

arethereanyleftatall · 24/11/2024 22:07

How didn't the fact that he only does 14% of parenting not put you off?!?

Raineys · 24/11/2024 22:14

Divorce him OP.
He is a lazy user.
Why would you marry such a waster.

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