Hi all,
sorry to impose on here but I’m desperate for advice.
me and partner have been together for 2.5years, his ex consistently causes issues.
my OH works nights twice in the year and works 1/5 weekends and these cannot be changed due to work contract. We have his daughter every other weekend and when he is an early shift which isn’t often he picks her up from school (she lives 45 minutes away from us or we’d have her during the week too)
she said we must swap weekends when he works and she can’t be with me whilst he is working as it isn’t classed as time spent with dad.
she has said one day must be spent with him whilst at our house in the weekend (which sometimes is hard to deal with as it’s my home too)
he has to submit his leave for the following year six months in advance, he has allocated three full weeks for her over the school holidays and she has four weeks. In recent years he paid for the school club during the summer holidays but has stopped as she wanted to go through CSA (no missed payments ever btw) and so he will not pay any further money.
she guilt trips him and has even said his dad has been crying that we are getting married although that is not the picture his daughter portrays when with us… she actually asks every time when can she have a little brother or sister.
I have bought a new house to accommodate having his daughter and she has her own floor, all her own clothes here bexause she won’t let her daughter keep any clothes we but her at her home, she has in the past made her get changed and then hand them back to her dad when he drops her off.
im losing my mind and it’s making us both on edge when ever she contacts us.
we are trying our hardest to do everything even though we work full time (he works shifts too)
really need some advice on what to do here.
sorry for the
long message!