Marital finances

[Horsewench]

We have been married 12 years. I've always paid household bills as oh is bad with money. I've asked him to pay half but he says it won't leave him enough for beer and fags. I don't get anything left from my wages either. He lost his licence due to drink driving and wrote his car off now he's complaining cos he cant afford another car. I have an 18 year old fiesta so nothing fancy. Am I being unreasonable

So what exactly does he pay as opposed to what you pay?

And if he's lost his licence he doesn't need a car surely

Exactly what does he contribute to your life/marriage?

Am I being unreasonable

About what? Paying all the bills and expecting him to pay his share?
Why on earth would you ask that question? You know you aren't.

You have one life - don't waste it with him.

Does he have any redeeming features?

What is your question OP?

Are you being unreasonable to expect your partner to share the bills in the house he lives in?

You are being unreasonable staying with a cocklodging waste of space for a husband who endangers other people by driving drunk.

People without a driving licence don’t need to buy cars. Does he even work? Where do his wages go?

Do you have DC with this prince?
You’ll be better off financially if he leaves either way as he contributes nothing. You’ll have discount council tax and use less hot water and have smaller food bills with him gone.

Sorry to be blunt. I feel so frustrated reading so many posts where men think their golden presence in a home is enough to secure free bed and board and a personal maid.

You're being unreasonable to keep him around.

Get rid of this loser.

You’d be better off on benefits.

Stop wasting your money and your future.

What a loser. How burdensome ☹️.

Before he indulges himself on beer & fags, he needs to grow up and pay his way. Who does he think he is? He can't expect you to carry the load just cos he wants what he wants.

It's time you got a nice new car, don't ya think?!

He pays shopping but complains if it's £100 some weeks eg laundry detergent week. And £35 broadband pm. He has his licence back now. I haven't asked him to pay anything towards the car even though he rides in it. Evidently it's illegal to throw him out and he won't just leave.

Please say there are no children here. Us it a bought house ?

And you are at all with this person because.....

Have you ever considered divorcing him?. Is he all you think you deserve from a relationship?.

He's got himself a ready made meal ticket in the shape of you and this is why he won't also leave. He won't want the gravy train to end.

And why would you ask whether you're being unreasonable or not?. Is that because he tells you that you are?.

Please tell us you dont have kids with this loser....

Do you own a house together, or is it a joint tenancy with his name on it?

You can get divorced. Then one or other of you will have to leave.

No kids. Rented. Law still says I can't throw him out

I would speak to your landlord see if they are happy to transfer the lease to you as you're the one paying it!

Which law?

Is his name on the rental agreement?

Is it council housing? In which case I'm not sure how that all works but hopefully somebody can advise.

If it's privately rented then just give up the lease, he'll get 30 days notice before he needs to leave, and then you rent it in your name only or find another rental (I know easier said than done).
But he's such a pain in the arse why would you want to be subsidising him for the rest of your lives, if he's a drunk you'll likely have to nurse/care for him when he gets older and develops dementia.

Short term pain for long term gain, every day you spend going out to work to support him is a day wasted.

No but having looked into it I'd have to get a court order