ifferent men. Met up with both a couple times, and my thoughts were drop one when I decide which one I like more. The trouble I have is I like both. I met both online and was chatting both for similar amounts of time before the dates.
So guy 1 is pretty serious and grown up, lacking the flirty chat if I’m honest but we get on so well. Is open about what he wants longer term and has made it clear he’s attracted to me. The issue is we’re very different in terms of our social compatibility. He’s pretty much living pay check to paycheck and I worry he wouldn’t keep up with my lifestyle. I’m also a bit bummed that the sexual spark isn’t there for me, was a nice kiss but didn’t have me thinking I want to rip his clothes off. Again I wonder if that’s because there is no flirty chat or any sexual innuendos with us. The dates were good as we spent the entire time chatting and time flew by.
Guy 2 is full of flirty chat, but mixed with serious stuff too and very like me. Both our dates have been flirty and fun and again time flew by. He’s established in his career and does seem to have his head screwed on and I think we would work better with each others lifestyle choices. The spark is definitely there for me and the kiss was making me think I want to take this further.
I do like both guys 1 for being pretty straight with what he wants longer term and our deep chats. 2 for all the flirty stuff but the chats not being so deep right now (happy for this to build in time).
Should I keep seeing both to see which one has more potential or should I rule one out now. I know longer term I want someone I can have both chemistry with and build that strong connection. I also don’t want to have to compromise on my lifestyle choices and holidays etc.
I don’t want to be the person leading both along but at the same time I like both for different reasons. Half of me thinks guy 2 would be the better match but worry he’s just saying all the right things then disappear if/when we sleep together (although he has said he’s willing to take it slow). The other half thinks guy 1 is the better match as we can have the deep chats etc now but the lack of sexual spark and different ways of life makes me think that longer term it would fail or I would resent him.
How long is too long to string both along? It’s not what I would normally do as I tend to focus my energy on one at a time.