Confused why my female friend asked me this question

[PreciousCry]

Yesterday my female friend asked me out of nowhere if I’m her husband and if we are both meant to meet one another. She also asked me if me and her are going to get married one day which I replied you never know. I just stared at her while she was in front of the mirror and tried to understand why would she ask me this question. This is the first time she asked me this. I was a bit tipsy and did not think anything of it until I woke up the next morning thinking about what she said. I’m confused.

so say no and soon

Yeah it is true that dating her will change are relationship dramatically. It either will break us or make us.

So you do want to date her?

Tough question.

You give off so many mixed messages. That's not a good thing to do.

No wonder she is confused about your relationship!

Dating a friend is a risk because if it goes wrong the friendship is likely to be over.

DH and I were friends for 2 years we dated. He pled his troth and I mean he was very serious, I felt the same and I resisted initially because I hated the thought of not having him in my life if it went wrong. It was very much I want to marry you.

Between his declaration and us getting together was about 4 weeks. I soul searched, I hadn’t been looking at the time and was 30. We were engaged just under six months later. We have been together for 27 years.

The issue is you have hinted you may consider it and she has now said something twice. I don’t think this is a healthy friendship.

Yes and no because I know how she acts with guys. I'm confused too. I was just shocked she said it out the blue to me.

From your replies it sounds like you don't know what you want and neither does she! So she was testing the waters to see if you were interested in her romantically instead of being just friends.

You make a great point. You are right about it going wrong in the end. How you described you and your male friend is sweet. Wondering if the relationship will end up breaking you two apart but it ended up being a blessing for you two. Why do you say this is not a healthy relationship.

I replied you never know. why on earth did you day that?
I just stared at her while she was in front of the mirror why. That's a bit creepy.

💯 you are spot on.

Not stare at her but looked at her when she said it like why did she say this out the blue to me.

She wants to know if she's wasting her time with you or not.
She has things to do - finding a husband, making babies - and if you aren't up for that she has to look elsewhere.
She might also be keeping you as a stand-by in case she doesn't find anyone better.
But with her talking the way you report, I'd say she believes you are linked souls who have been through past lives together. The problem is, even if that is true (if it could be), the relationship doesn't always work out in this life. I checked up on my linked soul recently and he blocked me on facebook. 😂

Said your linked soul blocked you 😔 Yeah that is the vibe I received from her. She asked me if I was meant to be my husband and did we meet by faith. Thank you for your opinion.

Yes and no?

Perfect illustration of a mixed message!

Whatever you do give it time if you care about her, if you don't care about her leave her alone.

What is there to be confused about?
She has twice said something about the two of you getting together.
That means she would quite like for you to be her boyfriend.

If you don't want that, tell her straight, don't say misleading things like 'you never know'.
Make up your mind.

Understood I will definitely listen to what you said.

💯

Maybe she gets through so many boyfriends because she doesn't really want to be with them and none of them are you.......

???

Interesting

OP, is your face to face communication with people you know this vague and peculiar? Because if so, it’s difficult to know what messages you’re giving to your friend. Why wouldn’t you just ask her?

If she's never shown any signs of attraction I'd say she was just taken by her fondness for you in the moment. The relaxed domestic setting of you being there while she got ready felt like what she thinks marriage would be. Unfortunately I think she was probably thinking of the companionship side rather than oh I'm so attracted to him I wish we were married. I could be wrong, but its very unusual for the first sign of a woman's interest to be something like that.

Scared to ask her. I think I should take up the courage to ask her.

I like the points you made. She has never shown any attraction to me that I know of.