What makes your partner lovely

[Winenot1]

Read a thread recently and noticed quite a few people saying their partners were lovely. Just wanted some examples or qualities of what makes your partner lovely? I think I'm in a pretty bad relationship and trying to gain some perspective that it's not normal so thinking these examples might help me!

Thanks 80s and Bluebellyhedge for your helpful explanations. There are some very nice behaviours described on this thread.

Quite sad reading this page- I'm very happy for all you lovely ladies though!!

My H would indeed have ticked all these 'lovely' boxes for many years until he suddenly didn't at around 48 - he's now 60'- I still get the cup of tea every morning, I still get lovely Xmas presents etc and in many ways he's fairly thoughtful and he's a good dad to our grown up son - however he has no patience at all anymore, does very little housework , is a workaholic and yes his job is stressful as he's self employed but top of his tree, never know what mood he might be in , rants constantly on drives, makes passive aggressive comments at times and has become very self centred and materialistic - really never used to be. Personally I would be quite happy to drop the tea and presents for not having to live with Jekyll and Hyde

Dh is very lovely, but I’d say, one really important thing and one of the things that very early on stood out to me is that he always did what he said he would. If he said he’d be over at 7 and we’d go get some food, he was there at 7 ready to get food. If he promised he’d fix whatever, he came and fixed whatever. Even now, if he says he’ll do the school run, he does the school run. There’s no, oh but the guys want to go for some drinks and I won’t be home. No, he comes home, does the school run, makes sure we’re all sorted and if there’s time, he’ll check if I’m okay to hold down the fort while he pops to the pub for a drink and is back by 9pm (and he’s always back by 9pm).

And it sounds so obviously expected, but I realise it isn’t: I have cancer at the moment. I’ve recently had a few surgeries that have been quite life changing and disfiguring. I don’t look how I used to look anymore. I look a bit hacked to bits and there is definitely no sex on the table for a long while. Dh hasn’t even blinked. Tells me I look great, everything is healing well, it will all be okay. Loves me just the same as always even though I look and feel a mess. In sickness and in health. I really have realised how loved I am.

Reading these has me in tears.

for years I felt unappreciated, like it was just give give give from me and all take from
him. He made me tea in bed once and dinner maybe 5 times in 15 years.

i left.

id love to meet someone who does things like these people are saying - I have hope

Our very beautiful 45 year old daughter says she is still single because so far no one has measured up to her dad. Surely that has to be the biggest compliment to a man/partner ❤️