Mine listens when I say he is being unreasonable. He might not agree, but we’ll have a conversation where I feel heard.
He looks after me- he takes care of some really shite jobs around our home. He also takes a fair share of ordinary chores.
He wants to spend time with me. He’s affectionate and loving, and amazing in bed.
And this, most importantly: He has never, ever misled me or played games. He does what he says he’ll do and he doesn’t pretend things are not as they are.
I was on my own for half a decade before I met him and I would not have gone on with him if he hadn’t been the way he is, because I was content alone and knew it wasn’t worth the heartache or going back to that shredded-nerves state of the gaslighting and emotionally abusive relationship, so I really watched out for signs of this.
Incidentally, OP, I made a casual remark to a friend about him once and she said, “oh my god, you’ve never actually been in a relationship where [this completely normal thing] is standard, have you?” It blew my mind that other people got this stability as standard. I’m so glad I spent the time on my own or I could never have avoided another fuckwit.