Do all middle aged men look at young girls on instagram?

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DH56 follows an account called OfficeCutey or something like that, which I've looked at, and she's 20 - 21 at the most. Massive boobs. Do they all do this? To answer the obvious question, no he hasn't made his account private, and I'm not sure he realises people (including his sister who follows him) can see what he looks at.

Surely most middle-aged men don't even go on Instagram?

Might be missing the point completely but I don't think people who follow you can see what you're looking at on Instagram? Maybe who you follow but not what you spend time looking at, I don't think. I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong.

They can see what you follow and if you like things

@GenderRealistBloke We'll agree to disagree. You just don't get it
An older man perving on young women is a perversion to me.

if he didn’t have a good enough explanation

What would be the good enough explanation for following busty, "sexy" young women on Instagram?

And publicly.
(Like many people, hrs clearly too IT illiterate to even realise everyone can see who he's watching).

When I split with my ex I looked at his IG follows (I never had before) and was a little disturbed by what I saw. Not young women per se but a lot of gym women, lot of girls posing on motorcycles (we both ride) it was all just a bit 🤢

He's late 50s too and I just see him in a whole other light now, definitely a perv

It totally changes how you see them doesn't it? It totally killed my attraction to someone I loved. Totally lost respect for them and realised they were like the other pervs

When I'm out with my 20yr old daughter it's pretty disgusting to see men well into their 60s and older looking her up and down. On one occasion I was so angry but my daughter just shrugged and said it pretty standard behaviour from most men. I could have wept.
If this is what middle aged (and older) men are like in public there's no way of knowing what they like in private/hidden apps and social media accounts.

I'm hoping the next generations won't be like this as we are growing up in a different world with consent and #metoo and boys not wanting to be known as sleazy. The older generations in general grew up in times where it was okay to stare and leer, old and young together was acceptable, being sleazy was encouraged. Just a theory but I'm hoping

Sorry everyone, I completely missed all the replies to this. Needless to say, things are not great at home to start with, and this just cements my decision, and gives me some justification - as if I didn't have enough already - to tell him I've had enough. Tbh I couldn't give a monkeys who or what he looks at on social media, it's more off-putting to witness the stupidity of having it on public. And even if he did set his account to private, his sister can still see it all! Christ alive!

Don’t use instagram or x , not terribly fussed on Facebook to be honest, though have account to see what old work colleagues and family who live away are doing, scantily clad young women, not intentionally ,as always think I have kids older than that and it just makes you think would you like older men looking at them

I'm hoping the next generations won't be like this as we are growing up in a different world with consent and #metoo and boys not wanting to be known as sleazy. The older generations in general grew up in times where it was okay to stare and leer, old and young together was acceptable, being sleazy was encouraged. Just a theory but I'm hoping

I like this theory and hope it's true. I was recently out at a bar with my dd and her friend and at least 2 men in their 50s tried hitting on them, despite the fact I'm stood with them, and quite clearly one of their mums!! When my kids tell me about men staring, wolf whistling (hello 1970s 🙄) etc, it's always men practically old enough to be their fathers.

So gross, I bet you were younger than the blokes too

Well you should care what he's looking at.. if you don't then it sounds like you're indifferent to him which is the marker of doom.

The thing is, men who are now in their 50s and 60s were born 1960s-1970s (like me- late 40s). This is the generation that was young in the 80s and 90s. It definitely wasn’t okay to stare and leer and being sleazy wasn’t encouraged- not saying it was some sort of perv-free paradise but most men were well aware that leering at women was not on. They’re not from the distant past.

If anything I feel like we’re going in the other direction. Of course soft porn and porn existed in the past but at least there was a perception that it was something outside the norm and to be kept private, rather than a normal part of life that women just have to accept.

@WAMozart My brothers grew up in the 90s and it was definitely a thing to objectify women then, it was all page 3 etc
But yes I agree in other ways it's getting worse with porn and onlyfans etc
The two things are so at odds with each other, we are trying to teach respect and consent and not objectifying, yet the online content that is accessible now is totally trashing that message.

@Disturbia81 Oh sure- definitely not saying that objectifying women is new. But the 90s was the age of “ironic” misogyny- men knew that it wasn’t ok so pretended it was all a joke ((not actually a joke). I just don’t think being that age is any sort of excuse- these are my contemporaries and men of that age are well aware.

lol so many deluded women on this thread.

How so?