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What are some good relationship advice you got from older people around you ?

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angel109 · 12/11/2024 14:23

What are some good relationship advice you ever received from older people ?

I'll go first.

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years so far and she is the woman I want to be with. She is a good woman overall. We did talk about marriage. We don't live together yet. We won't live together until marriage.

But i was raised by my single father and I have 5 brothers.

Here are important relationship advice that my father gave me.

Make sure you work hard and know how to save money in order to provide. Women like hard working men who can provide for them and protect them.

Do the household chores without her having to ask you to do so. The last thing a woman wants is to baby a grown man. Don't expect her to cook for you either. It's up to you to cook for yourself.

Have your own car and your own house before you even think about getting into a relationship. It's important to be 100 percent independent and never rely on your woman for anything. Don't even ask her for rides. If your car breaks down, take the bus or train to work.

Always pay for all the dates. Yes even if you go out for your birthday, still pay for everything.

And last but not least, be mysterious.

Don't be too open and vulnerable to your woman. Don't talk to her about your childhood memories or bad childhood trials that you went thro, don't talk about your bad days at work. Even if you have a bad day at your job, come home with a smile and a positive attitude and tell her your day was wonderful when she asks you how your day was. Don't ever tell her about any of your relatives dying and don't grieve and get emotional in front of her. If you need to cry it out, do it in the shower and make sure you lock your door. Keep any struggles and vulnerabilities to yourself. Even she says that you can feel free to be open with her and confide in her.

OP posts:
sonjadog · 12/11/2024 17:07

One good piece of advice I got from a man, was given to me by a manager at my workplace. He was in his late 60s, married twice and had been in relationships for over 40 years. He told me that showing emotion and vulnerability is a sign of strength, not of weakness. I was young and didn't understand it at the time, but as I have got older, I came to understand and realise how right he was.

Bluebellyhedge · 12/11/2024 17:20

Crikey you sound like a walking red flag. Not sharing difficult stuff? Equals emotionally unavailable rejection to me.
I'll give you a very wide berth.

Crikeyalmighty · 12/11/2024 17:26

It's got a whiff off surrended wife/Andrew Tate about it too

LindtCurves · 12/11/2024 22:21

angel109 · 12/11/2024 15:09

All the things are mentioned shouldn't be my SO's business. Things like childhood and bad days at work.

These are probably the 2 main things I’d like to hear about from a partner! If they won’t open up about those 2-3 topics, I’d probably not even develop an interest in them, this is what bonding/ closeness/ trust is about for me

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