Does he just want sex

[Luckylola732]

So I have recently been getting to know this guy and there have been a couple of red flags on things he has said

1. how easy are you to get withwhen drunk would you leave your friends on a night out to go home with a guy
2. Asked me what i’m like when drunk eg flirty etc
3. Always asks if i’m seeing anyone or if i’ve been going on dates at all. But apart from saying he has seen me on hinge doesn’t mention anything else apart from asking if i’m single
4. When we had another one on one chat after work he kept bringing up how many women he had slept with and what girls he had gotten with at uni. This lead to us naturally having a convo about hooking up at uni etc but I did notice he kept returning the convo to sex when I tried to change topic. He even asked when the last time i had sex was

For context we work together at a pub, we don’t have many shifts together but we have been vert flirty very early on.

My gut is telling me that he just wants a shag from me, but sometimes I also get the impression that he does like me seriously
But he is very hot and cold.

Definitely just wants sex sorry

Even if he wanted more he doesn't sound like relationship material at all
Constantly talking about sex etc
Just immature and creepy

@Luckylola732
He's telling you exactly who he is. More red flags than a 1st of May parade in Moscow.
Run for the hills.....
None stop sex talk is the clue. He's a player.

He would have asked you out for a date if he was really interested in getting to know you .

Even reading that has given me the ick! It does sound like he just wants sex, as another poster has said if he genuinely wanted to get to know you then he would have asked you on a proper date

He’s showing you loud and clear he’s after a no strings shag or at best a FWB but his questions would absolutely give me the ick 🤢

Ewww, doesn’t this give you the ick?

How pathetic he sounds. Just tell him to stop talking about sex as it's inappropriate.
Why would he think you'd have sex with him if he told you about his drunken teenage fumbles at uni? He sounds extremely immature and a right perv. I'd be telling him to shut up.

From a coworker this is beyond inappropriate. It is also immature and weird.

Even if he does want a long term relationship with you, why would you want to date someone with the maturity of a creepy 14 year old?

Of course he just wants sex--he's all but said so. Yuck. Get rid.

OP even if he doesn't just want sex from you, his conversation is bordering on sexual harassment, and I'd tell the manager, unless you can tell him yourself to stop.

He sounds absolutely ghastly. Childish, immature and pathetic.

This man doesn't even like or respect you op but he would definitely have sex with you, why are you even entertaining this prick?

Not for you with the info available. Moron

He sounds like a 15yo whose mind is sex obsessed.

Not worth the hassle OP.

Asking personal questions about a coworkers sex life, a coworker he hasn't known long, one who has tried to steer the conversation away from sex? That should be enough to put you off.... he doesn't seem to have a grip on what's appropriate and he isn't respectful of boundaries.

Honestly, don't engage with this, at best he's hoping to get some titillating info from you to entertain him while he works but is likely trying to test if he thinks you are 'easy' or potentially vulnerable after a drink. He's seeing if you'll complain or stand up for yourself about his (already) inappropriate behaviour... this is not a guy who respects you or who will treat you well.

Wants to have sex with you but doesn't know how to make it happen.

Creepy behaviour imo, I'd personally steer clear.

He might take you seriously but not for a relationship.
He is after sex. Nothing more.

Which could be good if that’s what you want too. Otherwise I’d stay clear.

My interpretation is actually that he's sexually possessive and jealous. If you told this guy things about your life then got in a relationship he would weaponise them against you. Avoid avoid avoid.

FFS raise your standards. None of that is acceptable.

He not only sounds like he just wants sex, the focus on how you behave when drunk sounds like he's a predator who is actively planning to use alcohol to coerce you.

Yeah, he sounds deeply creepy.

I would stop entertaining these type of questions and keep any conversation brief and strictly work related.

Also, have a think about your boundaries with a relative strangers.

Don't feel that in order to get along with work colleagues that you need to answer quite personal questions just because they have asked.

Yes I agree the focus on drunk sex is concerning. It's feasible he's trying to banter with you the way he'd banter with a male friend but I wouldn't be sticking around to find out.

He's an immature creep and is almost begging you for sex. I would steer clear of any further intimate conversations with him. What a dick.

I would say it's very clear what he's after. He sounds like a creep 🤢

Is he Jay from 'The Inbetweeners'?

What a grubby little creep!