So my partners mum is a heavy smoker and I'm worried that when the baby is born we will have to visit her with the baby but she smokes in her living room, she has done for years. I've voiced my concern to my partner by maybe going into the lounge when we are her house visiting instead of the living room but he said it's full of crap there's nowhere to sit she will smoke outside and light candles and spray the room ect and I said to him the room will still be toxic to the baby but he doesn't want to voice it to his mum because she will basically just say I've had babies in the house before and I've smoked outside and sprayed the room before visits, my partner said he's stuck between a rock and a hard place I know it's her house but surely I don't want to be bringing my newborn baby into a smoky room whether she's sprayed or not it doesn't matter, am I being too much or am I being reasonable?? It's caused an argument between us now I'm really fed up tbh, I've even suggested she visits us and my bf pick her up but then he said she will question why we aren't visiting and I said we'll just tell her why then, I've gave loads of alternatives like use the other room when we visit, maybe she could not smoke in the living room on the day of the visit.
I need others opinions please.
Tia