ive name changed for this.
dh’s friend died last year, he got that friends wife’s number to send her condolences, she wasn’t his friend as such but obviously he would see her when he visited his friend and would chat to her too. Anyway within the few months following his friends death he would message the wife to see how they all were, not a problem at all he was being nice and caring I thought, even though the friend who died wasn’t a best friend and would only see or speak to him a couple times a year. Anyway I’ve had a gut instinct lately as I’ve noticed his eyes seem to be wandering so I’ve been checking his phone, he’s been messaging her still but deleting them, weird as I’ve never shown him that I was bothered by him checking in on her and the kids but then last night I checked again and he has deleted more messages between them these I I had to recover the messages in the iMessage app and saw him ask her if she was at home alone at any point during the week ( I would be at work whilst he is off sick at the mo) then the last message from him he asked her if she can see herself moving on with anyone else! Is it me or is that a really inappropriate question to ask a recently grieving widow? Also to meet up with her alone, surely if his intentions were good he would want to see them all her and her kids? Also why delete them? It seems to me he is testing the water but please correct me if I’m wrong. Sorry if this seems jumbled I had 3 hours sleep last night and very hormonal x