Hi there. Looking for advice or am I over reacting? Married to dh for 12 years we have 2 young children 10 and 7 . I am a sahm and he works really hard manual job. He’s great round the house, always helping out. Washing, cleaning manual jobs can’t complain at all. But I feel like he’s just not interested in the kids at all. Like he has no time. I do football, gymnastics, swimming he takes them to karate one night a week and feel like he resents that I have one hour to myself that whole week! Anyway my son today was upset didn’t want to go (he’s very shy) so joined karate to build confidence and dh is like “stop being a wimp you be fine” and tells me not to “mard him” he does this a lot saying I fuss the kids ect but I just love them and want the best for them. He says I will “ruin” them being too nice. Makes me doubt myself as a mum. Also if I suggest a park at weekend or play centre he will pull his face. If we go for a meal he has a few drinks then will get mad at the kids when they say I’m bored ! Like why do they wanna sit in a restaurant for 3 hrs it’s boring because you want to have a drink.
he says we never have “us” time but if I’m honest I don’t want us time. If I seen he was a caring loving dad I maybe would but the way he speaks to the kids sometimes it makes me so sad. He sometimes speaks to his mum and dad disrespectful because they don’t come round enough but his mum has health issues and I understand but makes me sad how he talks to them at times. He constantly makes digs about my family or people around us. I find him draining and I’m on edge lately if I say anything to piss him off. In other words I’m drained . Am I over reacting?