Did your ex treat the OW the same in the end?

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If so how did/do you feel about it? Do you think it's karma or do you feel sorry for her in some way?
I've found out today that my exH treated the OW just like he'd treated me and I thought I'd think ha! Serves you right! but I don't.

Karma inflicted by the ex, the one who actually broke up the first relationship. It's in the thread title. But keep on hand waving cheating men, they can't help themselves.

You're the one who keeps on insisting that this isn't karma for the ex. But no one is saying it is.

That's not what I said at all. BIL wanted freedom & fun & his DW wasn't cutting it anymore being a mum now. He then left SIL, with a toddler, for the same reason. She managed to drag him back. She's very good at manipulation & appearances are far more important to her. I did hear she'd seen him on tinder. Maybe he realised he wasn't so appealing....

He IS a real dick. Always has to slip in a comment about how much they earn/how much their house has gone up in value 'compared to ours' etc. tried to do the pension size thing last time. 🙄 I don't engage but he's an absolute dick head.

His karma is that he’s fucking miserable and he looks it. He looks drawn and hollow-eyed and the dc say he and his gf are always arguing just like he did with OW. It’s not good for the dc at all but I’m glad he’s miserable and looks much older than his years. He should be in prison for what he did to me. I have no sympathy for him at all. OW is actually a positive force for the dc now she’s not with exH and is often on my side when he’s being a dick.

Yep, he did the same to the OW although she continues to stick it out despite him having a current OW for around 15 of the 18 years they've been together. He called me about 12 years ago when his GF found out he was cheating, sobbing down the phone asking what's wrong with him to make him behave in such a way, he still loves me and can we get back together.

I occasionally wonder why he wants such a complicated life.

Not an ex. But my dad was a serial cheater and abandoned my mum with young kids. He married his mistress. Although I grew up believing she had 'won', and my mum and my siblings had been shortchanged (he appeared to be a good father to them, and with me and my siblings was inconsistent at best). I've come to discover that he put her through hell and back, sucked the life out of her and have come to see that one of the best things my dad ever did to my mum was leave her. He never stopped being the narcissistic emotionally abusive cheater he was with my mum. In fact he was more emboldened as he was now with someone who demonstrated to him that regardless of what he put her through, she was never going to leave. Not everything that glitters is good The abandonment issues it left me is the only thing I regret.

The long of the short of it is, although I think people can I change, I rarely think they actually do, especially if they've shown no accountability, have made no efforts to right their wrong, and they've built their happiness off the pain of others.