I really need some help and advice as I feel like I am at a crossroads in my life at the moment.
I have been with my partner over 14 years, the last few years I have felt so unwanted by him, he never wants sex and to be honest I feel rejected by him.
My self esteem is so low, I had put on weight due to stress but I've lost a lot of it (although I am about 3 stone heavier than when we met). I have spoken to him repeatedly about it and he says he just never thinks of sex - is this normal? He is 48.
We've never had children, he had a vasectomy without me knowing when we were dating (he has children from a previous relationship), we saved and got it reversed. His tests came back that it had worked, although the Dr said he has a low sperm count so it was a miracle he fathered two children previously.
I really don't know what to do? I want to feel wanted again in a relationship and not to feel like his mother / friend.
Emotionally he is great, he's helped me through a lot and is so caring, buys me flowers etc. I'm at a point in my life I just don't know what to do (I'm 40), we speak about this (I always bring it up) and he then gets weird and over acts when I bring up the sex thing and then we are back to normal.
This has been like it for 6 years. I can't imagine my life without him, he is my best friend, but at the same time I want more, my ex always made me feel wanted but wasn't there for me emotionally. I'm full of regret / resentment that I haven't had children and now it's too late.
Has anyone else been in this situation? I really don't know what to do, do I give up a 14 year relationship over this or just carry on. I actually get upset some days as I just don't feel like anyone would ever want me and I should count my lucky stars I have him but this is making me unhappy.