Why would a guy keep asking if you are 100% fully straight? I have already confirmed I am straight (heterosexual) but he has asked this a few times?

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This guy I have been in the early stages of talking to/getting to know each other has asked me a few times if I am definitely straight. I wouldn't normally wouldn't think anything of this, however he has asked a few times the same question, once just before we hooked up and at the start of us starting to date, but despite me saying that I am straight he keeps asking.

I was just wondering if this is a normal thing for guys to ask, or keep bringing up to a girl who they are interested in or who is clearly interested in them.

part of me thinks he keeps bringing this up, because maybe he isn't fully straight, which if he isn’t is completely fine and I would be okay with, and he just doesn't know how to properly open this kind of communication up.

I may be overthinking this too much, just find it a bit odd that he keeps asking

He's after a threesome

He's hoping if he asks often enough, eventually you'll give him the answer he's looking for. Time's up for this one.

He is bi

Finds lesbians a turn on

Previous partner left him for a woman

No idea but I would keep clear after the 2nd time

Ask him the same question. Repeatedly. Like every couple of hours. Just checking, are you sure you're 100% straight. What about now, still straight?

Have some fun with it knowing you're going to walk away because he sounds like a twat 😂

Well ask once and accept her answer. Asking once is ok continuing to ask repeatedly is creepy

I would describe myself as a “discreetly bi” female. The reason for the “discreetly” bit is from experience, men who find out often expect a floor show.

l consider asking if you are bi in a fairly new relationship is quite intrusive. To ask more than once is not acceptable.

He's into porn and the manosphere and believes the 'all women are bisexual' stuff. Also doesn't believe women know their own sexuality or that female sexuality is any different from male.

Ironically I am bisexual and didn't realise it for a long time, but it wasn't a man that made me realise it.

My experience of guys that pester you about one thing is that they will keep on and on pushing for one thing or another and pushing boundaries. Any decent guy looking for a threesome would just come out with it and accept the answer. These types that just pile the pressure on are the worst 😒 It's like dealing with a small child: "Mum, can I have this? Mum, Mum, Mum!...Can I have this?".

Exactly this. I'm also bisexual and some men do objectify it and have certain expectations.

I don't even like group conversations, let alone group sex.

Have you got cuffed jeans, a nose piercing, wear flannel shirts, have a carabiner on your belt loop and have an undercut shaved in your hair? If so maybe he thinks you're in denial? 😀

But more likely he's hoping for a threesome!

Ask him if he likes being pegged every time he asks. Or just once and then use his answer everytime to ask Are you sure you don't/are straight?

He's gagging for a threesome. He's probably not even single and his girlfriend has sent him out looking for another bird for the pair of them to indulge their deviant fantasies with.

He sounds a bit strange. Get rid.

Runs the risk he says yes. 😂

Whatever his reason he's already refusing to take your word for it Op. Into the bin with him.

Obvs after a threesome.

Does he think if he keeps asking you will break down and confess you are bi???

I would get rid of that perv now

Strange thing to ask repeatedly! My guess is 3some?

Unless he’s noticed you checking out women, or you’ve made comments that could be misunderstood about other women, so maybe that’s triggering it?

The only thing i think we were once talking about our Uni days and i said I went to Brighton, and he asked as its the ‘gay london’ if i had ever gotten with any girls, i said no. But did say in my first year when i was on nights out i did kiss a girl but also said that i didnt see women in a romantic or sexual way and that it was just a one time thing on a few nights out. He did say that he also had gotten/kissed guys on a night out but similarly didnt do anything else.

So i think that may have made him question it, but i felt i was quite honset and upfront the first time we talked about it

Exactly this, with 2 being the most likely.

It's probably because he is fixated on acting out a porn fantasy with two women.

The script goes that two women are enjoying sex with each other and don't mind a guy watching and then invite him to join in and discover that sex with him is way better than sex with eachother. He needs to find a girlfriend who is at least a bit bi-curious to act this out with.

There was a mumsnet thread a few months ago where a guy pressured his girlfriend into participating in this but it turned out the two womsn just genuinely preferred each other and got rid of the bloke altogether.

I was going to say this. I think this is one of those times where it's more polite to be direct. He's asked you this 3/4/5 times and you now find it quite weird. Please can he stop asking you this?

If he doesn't stop, finish with him on the grounds that he is creeping you out.

Right. You think he reckons you are not being honest with him. So from the start of this relationship he has trust issues, and doesn't believe you.

You know this will continue, don't you? I'd dump him now if I were you.