Not sure what to make of this

[TheSnugHare]

my bf was being affectionate towards me and then told me we shouldn’t get too close because he isn’t sure we will work out, but his feelings might change.we were supposed to be watching a movie together tonight. Not sure if we should now

Over a year
I told him the situation was effecting my mental health and I felt he was provoking me and not listening to me and trying to cause arguments. He told me I was wrong, that I am not a normal person, I am provoking him and that I need to calm down. I laid out some boundaries. He said because I am attacking him he will carry on arguing with me about it. He said if I keep talking about it he will block me. And because I carried on he blocked me.
I’ve now kicked him out of the Disney plus account that I pay for and left him a voice mail to tell him we can talk again in a few weeks

Anxious avoidant attachment style?

It isn’t dizzy you are feeling.

It is relief.

Yeah sounds like it. Definitely avoidant of some sort. But either way you can be anxious/avoidant and still be a decent person. He’s emotionally abusive op. My ex was very similar in a lot of ways and I’ve only just got out of it.. it’s easier looking in from the outside than when you’re in the thick of it, but it sounds as though you’re on the way to removing him from your life. I would absolutely recommend that you block too (and don’t ring him in a few weeks, or ever) 🌺

I am dizzy because I’m on my period and have IBS and possible Endo

He is with you because he felt sorry for you.
Tell him to stick his sympathy up his arse ..it's cheerio time fucker..bye bye and block.

He has found a way to send me a friend request a few minutes ago but he can’t speak to me until I accept it. I wasn’t expecting this and bet he just wants to cause me more trouble. What could he want. I just need to relax more than ever at this time

Surely you are not thinking of accepting the friend request, are you?
Read back all the nasty things he has said to you.
Why would you want to be with someone who says such nasty things?

I accepted it and asked him what he wanted and he apologised and said he blocked me because I was antagonising him. I told him to stop bothering me and he’s blocked me again.

Block him on everything.

I feel so overwhelmed. He never listens to me. He blames everything on me. He always wants to change something about me. I’m finding it hard to concentrate on anything else with this hovering over my head. I find everything he says so annoying and provoking. I feel unheard and so triggered and on the verge of a meltdown.

What a cruel, vicious monster. You're well rid of him.

Wait a minute. I thought he broke up with you. So he said all that and then didn't? Then please break up with him.

He is a completely unhinged arsehole and potentially dangerous.

You desperately need help and support for accepting such treatment from anyone.

Block him and get counselling.
Do the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

You deserve better.

FGS OP he's tormenting you like a cat does to a mouse!

Just tell him to Fuck Off and block him on everything. Where's your pride??

OP we predicted he would do this. And he has. He is playing with you like a cat with a mouse. When he thinks you are going to get away he will say whatever he thinks will get you back. Then as soon as you reply or react, he strikes at you again.

OP I hope you got some rest. You’ve had a horrible experience with this man. Well done for challenging him. The quickest way to recover is to have nothing to do with him again. There’s nothing he can say now that will help you so keep blocking and ignoring him . Take care.

I haven’t had the rest I need. I resent him for that. He told me to stop making out he’s a demon.
I’ve told him we’re over but I’m not sure if he will take it seriously or not. I’ve told him we’re over before and then gone back on it. I’ve done the same when I’ve told him I don’t want to be intimate anymore and then at some point over the next few weeks I back down because I really crave it. we don’t live together or anything. Im not sure how to get myself out of this cycle

He sounds appalling and abusive.
Do you have somewhere you can go? You shouldn't be with him anymore. You're saying you feel you hate him but you miss him? You're in a relationship. These things are not normal.
You can do so much better than tolerating his behaviour.

Well if you find yourself "really craving" sex get yourself a decent vibrator and fill your boots!

OP it will be over when YOU take it seriously.
Right now he knows you're a pushover.
If you really want to put your long term wellbeing over a quickie, then you have to say no. And keep saying it. Then not let this person back into your life.
Or in ten years time you will still be posting about how your life and your mental health is in ruins but, but, but.

I told him we’re over again and he just said thank god for that. I listed things he’s done and asked him if he wanted a deadline to turn things around, he just ignored me. I will try to focus on other things.

💐

Well, he's a nasty piece of work, isn't he?

I’ve now kicked him out of the Disney plus account that I pay for - do you pay for anything else? It doesn't surprise me that he's freeloading off you. When he comes to yours, do you end up having to pay for everything? What happens if you go out together?

He is a total arse. You dont need people like that in your life they mess with your head. Be brave,dump the twat. If you miss the sex try loving yourself (mentally do this too). I’m a man and feel for you, I could never treat someone I’m supposed to love this way(or anyone for that matter)