Should I be concerned?

[whatadaygirlie]

I've been dating a man for a few months now. He's very lovely and caring. He's in his 40s. I'm in my late 30s.
My only issue is that he does not make an effort to groom himself. For example, he won't shave routinely, doesn't dress like a grown/ professional man, can be quite disorganised - no wallet, no watch, no calendar to organise his schedule so he just runs from pillar to post and forgets stuff.
My whole life I've been a well dressed lady and have been attracted to men alike. I've asked him to make an effort to present well as I need this to keep my spark but I was met with feedback that i was trying to change him. This hurts as I can see my physical attraction to him going down. I'm not turned on by men who do the scruffy look. I'm just not.
After torturous years of OLD, I'm just glad to have met someone nice. Should I just be grateful or should I be worried that it won't get better from here and perhaps these are signs of bigger problems to come?

A lot of wise advice has already been offered but I also think it is worth asking yourself - if you would like to start a family, would you be able to count on him for family responsibilities/admin? Someone so disorganised in how he dresses/hygiene in their 40s is unlikely to be able to organise all other areas of family life and kids.

Well in my opinion there is compromise and there are dirty slobs.

OP can you imagine if a man was dating you but was repulsed by your lack of personal hygiene? You would be horrified.
Just because he’s a good man in lots of ways it doesn’t mean he’s right for you. Just because he’s the least of the worst options, please don’t stay with him just for that.
You can’t change him, so leave him to it. If there’s a woman who doesn’t mind his ways out there, let her have him.
I don’t agree with your friends. OK, so you sound a bit straight in your standards but there’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t think you are wrong to want a clean, well-dressed man who can organise his life.
Staying with him will just continue this misery. And it sounds stressful.
He clearly functions in his own way but you are fine to want some basic standards.
Just because a man isn’t violent or doesn’t cheat it doesn’t mean you have to think that you have found a catch. Turning up in dirty clothes and smelling is not good for you.
If you stay you could have years of this mismatch and it won’t make you happy.

He’s nuerodiverse.
these won’t be the things you’ll worry about in a years time. It’ll be even worse.

"Lots of places I want to invite him to but I just don't see me turning up with a partner in teenage jeans and trainers"

Wow, you sound judgy and shallow. Do you measure every one's worth by how fancy their clothes are?

I think you should end this relationship as you clearly aren't compatible.

You can't and shouldn't try to change someone, it's not fair on either of you, it doesn't sound like your well suited, part ways and find more suitable partners

Sleeping con ese apestoso. Hope the sleepover was nice.

he is what he is. you won't change him,

When you say he' isn't groomed is he dirty? or just hasn't shaved-bit rough ? If the former, bin, if the latter then no big deal. though if it's a big deal for you then it is what it is.

re organisation etc, some people are organised, some are not. If he's not he never will be so bow out now would be my advice.