Messages only in daytime

[Thongsnomore]

Started speaking to someone new, it's been a couple of months. We've met up a couple of times, but only outside of home. We message each other alot in the daytime, but he's always quiet evenings and weekends. He says he's single and come out of a ltr earlier this year and is wary of having feelings again but from his messaging, I'm starting to think he's still in a relationship. Would you get this impression?

Would you get this impression?

Yes.

I’d definitely find it suspicious unless he works nights. Surely most people have more time to be in contact evenings and weekends rather than during the working g day?

I know it seems obvious really, but I was allowing for him occasionally having his son and not interfering with that relationship, but as its not every evening he has him - I've started thinking it's strange. Oh well, throw this one back.

No, works day's, finished by 2ish .

Oh god you're not Medway area are you 😂 sounds very similar to my friends situation. I'd say definitely in a relationship

No, Yorkshire. Lots of dickheads around though lol.

Does he go completely off grid in the evenings and weekends or just slows right down with the messaging? I know I've always been better messaging during the day compared to eves etc as I have a lot more going on when I'm home and just don't look at my phone. Try calling him in the eve maybe and see how he reacts to it?

Smell the Nescafe sister - move on, you deserve more.

Does his facebook page say he's single?

100% suspicious, evenings especially are peak contact time with someone you like

He will message back, and yes, takes longer - but also tone changes if that makes sense. Seems blunter, so I tend to not bother. I might try ringing, but writing it down is making me think it's not worth it. I do like him, but think it's not quite right.

Not on Facebook 🫤

Ah, that old chestnut😉

You'd think a good looking nice single man would be shouting that out from facebook really woudn/t you?

Where did you meet him?

He probably pops to the bathroom to reply, so has to be quick/blunt so he isn't caught.

Does he have no social media? Insta? I'd do some serious snooping.
But would also consider some people are exhausted by the weekend and go a little quiet - I do. I barely respond to friends messages, honestly because I'm knackered and don't want to speak to anyone extra. But even if he felt this way, doesn't bode well for a new relationship where he should be excited to hear from you

Glad you've reached the conclusion sooner rather than later. Incidentally, don't think that unsuitable men are the sole preserve or in any greater quantity in God's Own Country.

Another tell tale sign would be his WhatsApp pic if it looks like he hasn't got one then he's prob set it so you can't see it. Where did you meet?

This is a red flag to me.

At work - he's a delivery driver.

Oh, I didn't mean that, it was just in reply to being in Medway.

He’s married - or already in a relationship. This is a classic sign.

So do you see him every day if you work together? It's a hard one but I think my gut would be telling me to stay well clear.

Even if he isn't in another relationship; Don't you deserve more?

No, he delivers to my place of work once a week, that's where we met.

Why don't you pick up the phone and ring him now OP? Be interesting to see what he does.