Hi,
Sorry, it's long!
Could you please help me to understand something that happened to me.
We rented the house for two nights with other family. On the second night we had a wedding and me and my husband didn't know anyone so we, especially me, didn't have good time and he got angry with me blah blah blah. When we got back into the house he said we need to talk, I said, right, I'd get DS to bed and then we can talk. So, after, DS was in bed, we went out but then I thought 'what the heck I'm doing', it was quite late and in London, so I got back into the house and went to check on my DS.
When I got into the bedroom, my husband's friend was sitting on the bed his face something like 30cm away from face of my DS, his hands on both sides of my DS's head, I didn't hear anything when was climbing the stairs. When I got into the room, I sat on the bed behind the guy and waited. And then, after several seconds, this guy asked my DS which bit he liked most on that day. My DS didn't answer and after like 30 sec or so he wriggled out and came to me. The guy left the room without saying a word to me, nothing, just left.
It made me feel very uncomfortable. He was way too close to my DS for my liking. He is also rude to me, in that he ignored me, doesn't look at me, when I sit at the table he would stand up and walk away, he doesn't want to talk to me, he would stare at his phone when I say something to him. Earlier in the year, when he came to our house, he waited in his car until I left for work, and when I passed his car he didn't say hello or waved or anything and we live on very quiet road, it's not like there's lots of cars around and he was like a metre away from me. When we went camping once, he didn't expect me to be there and I could see disappointment of his face, he was taking his son to the loo and asked my son if he would like to come. All this separately could be innocent but taken together I have some suspicions towards this guy.
I tried to talk to my husband but he really likes this guy, and says he is great etc and that I'm mad, disgusting, wrong and that his friend doesn't like talking to me because I'm not interesting enough (!). I mean, he doesn't really say it, he shouts at me and bullies me, threatens that if I say this to anyone the guy will sue me, that my husband would loose his job, that we would end up in the caravan.
I have no one to talk to about it but it bothers me enormously. My chest it's so tight that I can't breathe, but I'm trying to look after myself because I'm scared to death that if I die or get ill this guy will have free access to my son.
What do you think? Would you be concerned if you witnessed something like that. I just don't know what to think about it any more. It took me three months and this guy's attempt to see my DS again, that slowly I realised that there's something wrong. I also wanted to add that I was sexually abused as a child so I'm quite sensitive on this subject.