I'm just looking for advice. I am having trouble in my relationship and when I've tried to bring up how he has treated me, he turns things round to what I have done wrong or justifies the behaviour because of whatever I have done. I've wrote down some examples to try and gain clarity of the situation but wondering if I'm just being too sensitive. These things have all been over the last 2 years.
- driving my car aggressively after I told him not to get out the car and start shouting at another driver who pulled out on him. Told me not to speak to him that way/ tell him what to do
- telling me that I'm crazy and don't live in reality when I bring up things that have upset me
- frustrated at me for how I train the puppy and asking if I had something wrong with me because I couldn't walk her the way he told me to
- saying if I didn't do stupid things all the time then he wouldn't have to correct me
- we have split finances but comments on how I spend money ie. if you think you are buying a new car next year we need to have serious words, telling me I won't be going on holiday with family.
- Guilting me into having sex by giving me silent treatment when I say no even when ill
- not wishing me happy birthday
- shouting at me at a restaurant to sit up and eat properly
- punched a wall on 2 different occasions when we were arguing but blamed on me for how I spoke to him
I don't know if these all just sound like petty arguments but I feel he's not really treating me like his partner and like he is speaking to a child. We still have good times but any time he speaks to me poorly it just reminds me of all these incidents and I can't seem to let go but I don't know what to do