Would you consider your husband to be your best friend?

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Just that. I would consider my husband my best friend. We met through a common interest in a hobby and hit it off instantly and we’ve literally been inseparable since. Yes we have arguments but they’re few and far between. I see so many people on here complaining about their husbands and it makes me so angry that some men are so useless and don’t value their wife as a person and a friend. I was in a very abusive relationship in my younger years and honestly there’s not a day goes by where I don’t feel so thankful that my husband is my best friend (and that he’s also very easy on the eye but I’m biased lol!).

What do those in camp dh best friend do when/if there is a breech of trust? Genuine question.

Absolutely not ,..boring as ###,but I can depend on him when necessary.My friends and children are my fun people. Have been married for 30+ years so there we go !

I have only got 2 friends. He is one of them. But we have had a turbulent history. We get on well now. But he has been horrible to me in the past, which i still have difficulty with.

We are some how connected. Definitely physically. We are nearly always in each others company. It is an odd relationship that is bound by children, pets, home, history and finances.

I don't have any of this messiness with my other friend or past friends (when I was younger).

Either DH or my mum are my best friend, I can't pick between them.

This sums up me too.

I love my dh dearly. He is my absolute rock. Obviously he knows me inside out (and I him), but he has a special relationship with me through being my dh.
It would never cross my mind to list him as a best friend.

My late husband was.

This and what @Colinfromaccounts said, at 17:58, to be quoted by Abracadabra

Yes, he's the person I chose to share my life with and share my secrets and dreams with.

This for me too!

Yes! We have mostly the same interests, hobbies, tastes, humour, politics and i can tell him anything. I have some very close gfs I've known for decades and love spending time with them and have shared interests DH doesn't have but I still have far more in common with DH. I value my other friendships and invest time into them but wouldn't call them better friends than DH.

This is why I married him really! You don't always grow in the same way as friends - e.g some have kids, others move for work, they have other priorities. But DH and I will likely always have the same joint objective in life and grow together. If we divorced though, he wouldn't be any kind of friend - there is that.

What do you mean? 🤔 Who else could I talk to if something happened to our marriage? My mum, my close friends, my brother, my SIL... Just because my husband is my best friend it doesn't mean he's my only friend.

He’s the person choose to spend my life with and want to come home to, but he’s my husband, not my friend.

He’s more than a friend in some ways and different to a friend in others.

He annoys me the way a friend wouldn’t!
We bicker the way I wouldn’t with a friend.

But he is the one I want to share funny bits of my day with, do nothing with and go on holiday with.

He makes me feel secure, looked after, sexy. He pays for everything, plans surprise weekends away, sorts out my life admin as I’m too lazy//disorganised.
These things are not the role of a friend.
My friends fulfil the need I have for friends. My husband, for that of a life partner.

Was actually mulling this very subject today. I met a girl years ago at my hobby club who's DH has no interest in it. I do this hobby with my DH now so haven't bothered with the club in years. She still asks me to join her doing this hobby (cycling) and struggles to understand why I left the club and why I do it with my DH. Will often express surprise. She loves her DH obv but their marriage isn't based on a 'friendship' aspect, they get on well but very different personalities. So i understand why some couples wouldn't see each other as best friends despite loving each other.

“I love my dh dearly. He is my absolute rock. Obviously he knows me inside out (and I him), but he has a special relationship with me through being my dh.
It would never cross my mind to list him as a best friend.”

This expresses it really well for me. DH is the most important adult in my life by virtue of being my DH and we have (mostly) a very good and happy marriage. That said, it is very important to me to have other people as best friends. But I think ultimately this is probably semantics.

God no.

Yes, mine is. I have close female friendships but DH is my best friend.

Exactly this.

My late partner was yes. We spent 4 years locked in a small flat together day in and day out and never ran out of things to talk about. He was waiting for a lung transplant so wasn't able to ever come out of lockdown because of the risk and I decided to do the same to keep the risk to him down.

No regrets at all, some of the best years of my life. I don't understand people who marry someone who isn't their best friend honestly. I don't see the point.

Of course he is! We've spent the last 25+ years waking up next to each other and being happy that we are the first people we see when we're awake. He's seen me at my absolute worst and my absolute best AND watched me push 4 huge children out my vagina. We've supported each other from Uni to turning 50, from being really freakin poor to being successful.

I have loads of great female friends and my absolute best female friend is my sister. DH also has a great group of friends. But none of them have seen us at our most vulnerable in the way each other has.

I did until he had an emotional affair for 2 years. Then I realised you can't trust anyone other than yourself.
I am now fitter, and mentally stronger. Stll with the husband, who appears to be genuinely sorry and is trying everyday to be a better person. Time will tell if we remain together.

No, I don't have a best friend. I find the concept a bit weird/childish actually. I adore my DH though.