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Thoughts on what to do

39 replies

noclue2024 · 09/10/2024 19:01

Let just give you a quick rundown - My boo of 4yrs (we often take a break from each other because he is so controlling) scheduled a vacation with his children & grandchildren - spur of the moment to leave mid week and not return for 6 days. He doesnt have to work and I on the other hand have a full time accounting job. Before he planned it my bestie ask us to go away with them on a weekend getaway - he quickly declined their invite and never brought it back up.

He, his son, daughter and grandchildren leave - he then expects me to shell out $875.30 for a round trip 2-day plane ticket to meet them - that I declined.

I've never been anywhere without him nor has me until now. I was kinda relived that he was going, it will give me a stress free break. Well the weekend couples getaway turned into 4 besties and my 24 yr old daughter going and celebrating her birthday - in a cabin - only outing was a Vineyard & restaurant and we only stayed 2 nights. i spent less than $200.00 for the entire getaway.

When he knew I was going, he became livid, i havent heard from him (only for him to tell me he is done (He said he doesnt want to see me, no communication, nor talk to me) and he ended up extended their family getaway.

It been almost a week and nothing from him. He hasnt ask for his garage door opener or house key back and thats always the 1st thing he ask for....

THOUGHTS?????

OP posts:
unsync · 09/10/2024 19:10

I would let him stay done and stick his belongings through the letterbox. Your 'boo' 🤮 sounds awful. Why would you go back to someone you openly acknowledge is controlling? You might like to work on boundaries and what is acceptable behaviour in an adult relationship.

Shadesofscarlett · 09/10/2024 19:23

Boo and controlling - nah, get rid.

shardlakem · 09/10/2024 20:00

I didn't even read past the first line - why are you in a relationship with someone you need to take a break from?!

Babbahabba · 09/10/2024 21:50

You must be at least mid 40s with a 24 year old daughter and you're using the terms boo and bestie? So bizarre 🤣🤣 But why are you with someone who's controlling? Bin him.

persisted · 09/10/2024 22:05

My thoughts are that he can get lost. He sounds like an arse.

idrinkandknowthings · 09/10/2024 22:15

Get shut of him, he's a dick.

Then stop calling adults boo & bestie.

Nell1974 · 10/10/2024 06:59

You write like a 14yo yet you have an adult daughter?
Your partner sounds controlling and you are better off without him.
HTH

GreyCarpet · 10/10/2024 07:08

THOUGHTS?????

It's over. End it. Don't answer if he calls you again. Just end it.

HollyKnight · 10/10/2024 11:24

He hasnt ask for his garage door opener or house key back and thats always the 1st thing he ask for....

He probably doesn't think he needs to ask because you should know the routine by now. Plus he's away. Post the keys through his door and get on with your life.

Whalewatching · 10/10/2024 12:56

Bin.

midlifeattheoasis · 10/10/2024 17:41

idrinkandknowthings · 09/10/2024 22:15

Get shut of him, he's a dick.

Then stop calling adults boo & bestie.

This

Noglitterallowed · 12/10/2024 12:54

When I saw boo and bestie I assumed you were young and immature but then saw you have a 24 year old daughter 🤦‍♀️

well clearly isn’t not a healthy relation ship so leave him to it

Noseybookworm · 12/10/2024 13:00

Why are you in a relationship with this controlling man? He sounds like hard work. I'd rather be single frankly 🤷‍♀️

Clearinguptheclutter · 12/10/2024 13:03

I don’t follow this tale at all but you say at the outset you need breaks from him because he is controlling is all I need to read

ditch and move on

Harry12345 · 12/10/2024 13:10

I don’t know how at your age you can be arsed with this shit, get rid of him

Disenchantedone · 12/10/2024 13:15

My thoughts are take the chance to rid yourself of this horrible man. Even if he comes back all apologetic, it will happen again and again. Concentrate on a peaceful life seeing your daughter and friends!

NZDreaming · 12/10/2024 13:18

@noclue2024 why are you with this man? You described him as controlling, doesn’t want to spend time with your friends and is ‘livid’ that you would still go on a trip he chose not to go on. Take this as your opportunity to end this unhealthy and ridiculous relationship for good. Block his number, cut all contact, return his keys and never speak to him again.

I’m pretty sure you won’t do this because you’ve clearly had the option to do this before but keep going back to him. Why? You want out thoughts. It’s clearly a toxic and dysfunctional situation. Do you like the drama? Does he promise to change? Do you have no self esteem? I can’t think of any logical reason why you would stay in the relationship. Please explain.

Botanybaby · 12/10/2024 13:38

You lost me at hoo 🤮🤮🤮

DecoratingDiva · 12/10/2024 13:42

Well done on getting rid of him.

I mean what is the point of trying to salvage any sort of relationship with a man you call controlling and don’t even make sound vaguely attractive in any way?

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 12/10/2024 13:49

You don't need a man.

Live a happier life without him in it.

I mean, it's not that easy: he thinks he's punishing you and you'll take him back when he's ready. So you'll have to decide what you want to do when that happens.

mummybear35 · 12/10/2024 14:45

He’s done you a huge favour. You’ve dodged a bullet! He can stay gone..

lilacmamacat · 12/10/2024 14:52

shardlakem · 09/10/2024 20:00

I didn't even read past the first line - why are you in a relationship with someone you need to take a break from?!

Yep, exactly this.

Lentilweaver · 12/10/2024 14:55

Boo whom you have never been anywhere without. Already I have the ick

TicklishMintDuck · 12/10/2024 15:54

What’s a boo? 👻

TeabySea · 12/10/2024 17:47

'Boo' and 'bestie' aside, this guy is awful. He said he was done, so that's all good. Tell him to get his stuff, and enjoy your life away from his controlling behaviour.

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