Thoughts on what to do

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Let just give you a quick rundown - My boo of 4yrs (we often take a break from each other because he is so controlling) scheduled a vacation with his children & grandchildren - spur of the moment to leave mid week and not return for 6 days. He doesnt have to work and I on the other hand have a full time accounting job. Before he planned it my bestie ask us to go away with them on a weekend getaway - he quickly declined their invite and never brought it back up.

He, his son, daughter and grandchildren leave - he then expects me to shell out $875.30 for a round trip 2-day plane ticket to meet them - that I declined.

I've never been anywhere without him nor has me until now. I was kinda relived that he was going, it will give me a stress free break. Well the weekend couples getaway turned into 4 besties and my 24 yr old daughter going and celebrating her birthday - in a cabin - only outing was a Vineyard & restaurant and we only stayed 2 nights. i spent less than $200.00 for the entire getaway.

When he knew I was going, he became livid, i havent heard from him (only for him to tell me he is done (He said he doesnt want to see me, no communication, nor talk to me) and he ended up extended their family getaway.

It been almost a week and nothing from him. He hasnt ask for his garage door opener or house key back and thats always the 1st thing he ask for....

THOUGHTS?????

Give your head a wobble love

Is this really a serious post??

What the fuck is a boo?

Something the OP is too old to have.

I'm very anti ageism but using slang that you think is young and trendy but actually is ancient is a bit embarrassing, imo.
I looked the term up about 20 years ago because I heard it in a song, and apparently it's a term for boyfriend derived from "beau" and the OP would have sounded silly using the word even then given she's old enough to have a 24 year old daughter now.

The OP seemingly has an unpleasant sounding partner/boyfriend and - again imo - would be well rid of him.
Especially if he likes being called a "boo".

OP you know he’s controlling, if you’re hoping for some magic combination of words that will make him understand, they don’t exist, because he chooses to be like this. It’s time to either leave or accept a life of control and double standards with this insecure, selfish man.

Stay away from him, break it off permanently!
Why would you stay with someone you regularly need breaks from and is controlling.

(Also "boo" ?! 🤢)

This man is bad for you. He's a terrible partner and you deserve better. Why on earth you'd put up with this kind of shit is beyond me. Find your self respect and leave it ended. As a pp said, post the keys through the door and the garage fob, if he's got stuff at your house drop all that off in the garage first. Then don't reply to him ever again. You'll be happier for it

I’d make this break a permanent one. It all sounds cringeworthy and tiresome.

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that’s all.

Why are you in a relationship with someone you have to take breaks from.

Why was he livid when you went away with your DD, was he annoyed you didn't go away with him, controlling men are like this.

It sounds like you don't live together, keep it that way.

Amazed you need to ask.
A man child. Move on.

It sounds like there's a deep imbalance in your relationship, especially in terms of control and expectations. From what you shared, it seems like he's used to being in control of the situation, and when you made a decision for yourself (by going on the getaway with your daughter and besties), it triggered his anger. His behaviour, particularly with the silent treatment and extending his family getaway, seems manipulative, possibly to make you feel guilty or uncertain.
The fact that he hasn’t asked for the house key or garage opener back could mean he's waiting to see if you'll reach out first, giving him more control over the situation. However, his refusal to communicate directly might also be a sign that he's testing boundaries or trying to punish you for asserting independence.
At this point, it’s important to consider what you want from this relationship. If his controlling behaviour and lack of support for your decisions are ongoing issues, it may be worth reflecting on whether staying with him aligns with your happiness and peace of mind. The relief you felt when he left for the trip might also be telling.
Ultimately, it’s about your well-being. Do you want to continue in a dynamic where you feel controlled, or do you see this as an opportunity to evaluate if this relationship is truly serving you in a healthy way?

Boo? Are you Kelly Rowland in 2002? Do you message him on excel and get annoyed when he doesn't respond?

Get shot of this loser, and work on yourself.

@MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel 🤣🤣 Love that clip of Kelly texting on excel- so funny!