Disrespectful?

[Uncertain007]

Guy im dating was due to meet me for a walk and dinner at 4pm. I'd stay over.
However, due to a change in shifts, his housemate is in today and offered to make dinner for them.
I've been asked to come now at 7pm as it would be cheeky to ask the housemate to cook for 3 people.
I feel disrespected. What's your advice?
I've sent a message saying it's best we leave it until we can have a proper date.

"You can come earlier if you like but I can't really ask housemate to cook for both of us."

That's the line that kills it for me.
If I like? I do not fucking like mate, no.

Glad you dismissed him. He deserved that.

Or as MounjaroUser said,
"Don't come for a meal tonight, just turn up later for a shag."
He doesn't even leave his home, does he? Someone's cooking for him, someone else will come round to have sex with him. He's a little emperor!

I’d just reply “No thanks”.

OP, you've handled this brilliantly! Really good to see someone having standards.

Good for you OP! After 10 dates I'd expect to be a higher priority than his flatmate!

He says he's skint because he's "eaten out a lot recently".
Is this on his dates with you or is he dating hard with others too?

I think your responses have been on point.
This kind of laziness is not a great sign this early on.
Well done you for having a clear sense of your own self worth!

Hi FYI we're in our 30s.

Just had a lovely evening with a friend for dinner.
He says he's sorry as he has always found it difficult balancing time between friends and dating.

I said that I was offended. He asked how my evening went so I sent great photos

@Uncertain007 I am so glad you had a fab evening with your friend. I would put a bit of distance between that guy and yourself. He’s obviously realised he has to work harder to get you into bed and so he called and tried to change his housemate‘s meal offer. Personally, I think you’d have plenty more fish in the sea. Cool this one down and keep dating others. I wouldn’t let a man treat me like an afterthought and then expect a change. He will take you for granted again once he gets you.

Is he poor? Can he afford to feed himself?!

Well handled OP.
I would be very wary.
He is rude, disrespectful of your time.
It would give me the Ick.
I would not waste any time on him, keep seeing him if you wish, but keep looking.
I certainly wouldn't be exclusive with him.
Keep your options very open.
In his 30's and needs to cadge a meal from a flatmate??
Really?

@Uncertain007, he also changed your plans and marginalized you last night. I commented on the thread you wrote about it.

You had a date, but he later asked if you minded his friend joining. You kindly agreed, but at the venue your Boyfriend bought his friend a drink but never bought you one. Also, the conversation was mostly monopolized by their reminiscing about their uni days and old friends.

His friend offered you a drink, but your BF
failed to.

You weren’t a priority to him last night or tonight. You know that you deserve better, @Uncertain007. My advice is to move on.

@Uncertain007 oh dear I commented on your last thread. Is this the same guy?

If yes please dump him asap.

Bin him

You've made the right call; it was rude of him to do that. He should really have told the housemate he already had plans.

Great response. Love it.

Nice self respect OP, you did the right thing! He's making zero effort, has upset you and doesn't get it. Not great form is it. I don't think I'd bother with him as he is never going to put in more effort than rightnow, when he's dating, so imagine 5 years time..

Didn’t realise this was same OP - he’s a waste of space who doesn’t respect you.

Apologies OP I presumed you were female but just seen your previous threads that you’re male.

Oh wow, same person as the other thread mentioned? I read that and, like other PP, didn't realise it was the same person. Absolutely not worth continuing with this guy. He's completely taking the piss. Sorry, OP.

Just read your other posts too - you were out as a three and he bought himself and the friend a drink on his round but didn’t buy one for you? Awful! It doesn’t sound like he’s the one for you, OP 🌺

This! Absolutely not, what a bloody cheek. Ditch or at the very least tell him how you feel and that this is what it looks like.