Husband and Holland

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Husband wants to go to Holland for 2 days with his friends on a bachelor party . None of his friends are married and I don't really know them personally. Idk how to feel about it .. to let him go or not ....

It's Amsterdam , he has told you Holland to throw you off the scent..

What's the deal with putting a camera in the bathroom ffs

He sounds vile !!

What are you hoping to gain from this thread OP?

None of us can stop him going to Amsterdam and using the red light district. He's got form and he's with his single mates so yes, it's very very likely he will be having sex with prostitutes.

Only you know if you are willing to put up with this, and given your response to the appalling shower incident it seems that you are.

You can leave him or put up with this and future behaviour. It's your choice. Not sure what else there is to say.

What a shit marriage. You’re worth so much more.

Not all men go to the netherlands for sex and drugs. This I can attest to. Your issue is not the destination it is the man. You need to leave him. He is probably more a risk to Amsterdam than the other way around with his previous carry on.

I don't have a daughter . And I think if I would the I would be long gone .

I told him I don't trust him and his friends and all his response is, just laughing , I have been open that his history doesn't allow me to trust him , he didn't give me a proper answer but just fun laughs . I am in a constant depressed state.
after whatever he has been doing i tols him to not let me find those stuff out , Maybe his friends do drugs that's why they are never at my place ? And about women ? It's a matter of time men slip so easily . I just don't want him to go .

Wtaf?!

I have told him that he can tell hid friends to do it in the UK and not too late at night coz u have a family . They can carry on coz they are single . Idk I'm away for 2 weeks and he deleted me from the indoor camera that we kept in living room for kids .

THIS MAN IS AWFUL. Please please dump him. Honestly. This is not how it has to beZ he’s a shit but not all men are. You need to get away from him and work on your self esteem, possibly therapy etc.

I am on a therapy and medication and have been very honest about my feelings to husband too , we haven't had any physical relationship we both in separate rooms just co parenting but KNOWING WHAT GONNA HAPPEN NEXT is freaking me out ...

You'll carry on feeling like this until you take control and end what is clearly an absolutely rubbish relationship.

Frankly, I can’t see why it would make any difference if he did go to Amsterdam and have sex with other people: your relationship is already over in everything but name. You’ve basically separated already and just need to pull the sticking plaster off and separate properly. You both sound thoroughly miserable and clinging on to a situation which is going to be making your DC thoroughly miserable as well.

You may not have daughters but you are teaching your sons that this behaviour is ok! Do you want them to treat women like this when they are older???