Dating a guy who smokes weed

[Quesions]

I don’t know anything about weed
never grew up with it - at school, uni etc
don’t know anyone who smokes it
guy I’ve just started dating smokes 6-8 a day on the weekend - weed and tobacco
he said he smokes after work during the week too

I don’t know if this is a lot and how it would affect your health and life? Obv I know tobacco is addictive and terrible for health

thank you

@Quesions Urgh no WAY. 😖 It's a certain type of person who smokes weed, and this type of person is someone I don't associate with. And I would certainly not DATE a man who smokes weed.

It's awful stuff. Has a vile stench, and turns the person smoking it into a nobhead. Seriously, why would you even entertain mixing and socialising with someone who smokes weed, let alone DATING someone who does?!

Yuk.

I dated a bloke who smoked. He was really good in bed so I put up with it for 3 months.

But he smoked all the time, stayed up late to smoke and woke me up coming into bed at all hours. By the end everything was planned around his next smoke and I had enough.

I'm not anti drugs - but I wouldn't date a stoner... just no motivation!

Short answer is yes, it will be affecting his health and life. It’s progressively become stronger compared to the product that hippies were using back in the 60’s, the stronger the concentration of THC the greater the risk of negative effects. https://www.bath.ac.uk/announcements/cannabis-strength-soars-over-past-half-century-new-study/

It'd be a nope from me too.

Throw this one back, it will just become an issue between you.

It 'works' if two parents smoked it and have no interest in dialing it back when they have children. I use 'works' in a very loose sense. I've known students come into school high off their parents third hand smoke and actually stinking of the stuff. It's not a future I'd want.

It's unusual to smoke that much! His lungs must be black.

Hard pass!!

no way would this man be for me but regardless of the potential impact on his mental health I think weed is probably the worst smell in the world so that would be enough for me to pass!

Can he string a sentence together?

No they tend to be losers, conspiracy theorists with mental health issues, avoid
If you have kids or want them, it's not nice to have around them, it stinks.

If he smoked as a teenager he probably has or will develop mental health issues from it, it's terrible for people pre-adulthood.

Yes to this

Why bother?

Been there. Stoners are boring fuckers OP. Daily users are awful to he around when they've ran out.

I wouldn't in your shoes but sometimes you need to learn for yourself.

I wouldn’t blink if it was a couple a week but he sounds dependant. Personally I wouldn’t date him and I wouldn't date someone who had a few drinks daily and more at the weekend. Much rather have a partner addicted to fitness.

Drop like a hot rock.

Every regular weed user I've known has been fundamentally a loser. Laziness, paranoia, lack of motivation, selfishness, moodiness. And that's before you get into the "supporting modern slavery and extortion" and "fucking stinks" side.

Don't waste your time on him. Cannabis is not a legal drug in the UK. I also makes people really lazy - they just sit about chilling rather than actually getting on with life. There was a guy in a team I managed who smoked week, he started off ok and thought he could control it but was hooked over time. In the end he did nothing as he couldn't be bothered, even to the extent that his car blew up and he didn't bother to check the oil or top it up! He was managed out due to poor performance issues. You can do better than a loser that smokes weed!

Nope. I'd they smoked socially at a party every now and then then maybe. But smoking almost dialy and significan amounts during the weekend. That's a no.

That's an addict. Also never met a regular weed user that was a functioning adult that I'd like to share my life with.

That's very heavy usage.

I've dated several weed smokers (I've never smoked and don't take drugs), none of them are losers or conspiracy theorists. A couple do have mental health issues, couple are autistic (so do/am I).

Heavy usage like that is extreme though, especially daily. Tobacco doesn't help.

Does he see it as a problem? Is he trying to cut back? Do you like him otherwise? Does it make you uncomfortable?

If it's not something you can tolerate, don't date him.

I think smoking a bit of weed is OK (should be legal imo), but 6-8 per day at the weekend is excessive. Something isn't quite right with an adult who does this. There are more interesting things to do with your time!

Occasional weed smoker would be no issue. Daily user, no... you have no idea what their actual personality is like when they aren't under the influence.

An old stoner boyfriend who was usually funny, kind and relaxed became jealous, angry and really unpleasant when he couldn't get hold of weed... as I discovered a few weeks into a 3 month backpacking trip! It was like he was a different person entirely, he'd used weed to supress a lot of insecurities and issues and without weed he was actually quite frightening to be around.

He sounds like a loser. Get rid.

Think very carefully if there's a chance you might want to have kids with this bloke. Cannabis is a known teratogen, which means that it alters the development of the foetus. Some of this comes about from his sperm, which will likely be of poor quality and with many mutations - which generally lead to a poor outcome for the offspring. Some of it will be down to the effect on you during pregnancy, because even if you never smoke it yourself you will absorb some through passive smoking and because you're sharing a home with him.

The main effects on the baby are in brain development and heart defects.

No.

The odd joint at a party ever few months is one thing, but not someone who has their own stash at home. He sounds like a heavy user. Don't even go there. He's a stoner. They all claim they're not addicted and can stop at any time, but they can't.